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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Posted on September 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading →

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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Posted on August 21, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Robert Macfarlane on the Celtic culture of retreat, & wildness

Posted on August 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘[The] Celtic Christian culture of retreat originated in the Ireland of the fifth and sixth centuries. Begun by St Patrick in the 430s, and inspired by the desert saints of the preceding centuries, the practice of retreat spread to what … Continue reading →

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Parker Palmer on the highest form of love

Posted on June 28, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The highest form of love is the love that allows for intimacy without the annihilation of difference.” Parker J. Palmer: The Courage to Teach Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Robert Macfarlane on Mountains

Posted on April 13, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Mountains seem to answer an increasing imaginative need in the West. More and more people are discovering a desire for them, and a powerful solace in them. At bottom, mountains, like all wildernesses, challenge our complacent conviction – so easy … Continue reading →

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Linda Graham on Forgiveness

Posted on February 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Forgiveness does not mean condoning, pardoning, forgetting, false reconciliation, appeasement, or sentimentality. It is a practice, daily and lifelong, of cultivating our own inner peace and wisdom that allows us to see that our pain is part of the pain … Continue reading →

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I’m a Therapist, But I’m Not Your Therapist – Kathleen Smith

Posted on December 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thecut.com/2017/12/therapist-friends-ask-for-advice.html?utm_campaign=sou&utm_source=fb&utm_medium=s1 Click on the link above for Kathleen’s thoughtful and perceptive piece…. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Too right it’s Black Friday: our relentless consumption is trashing the planet George Monbiot

Posted on November 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/nov/22/black-friday-consumption-killing-planet-growth? Click on the above link to visit the Guardian for this article by George Monbiot, to mark last week’s ‘Black Friday’. ‘When you hear that something makes economic sense, this means it makes the opposite of common sense. Those … Continue reading →

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