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White Fragility: Why it’s hard to talk to white people about racism – Robin DiAngelo

Posted on July 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism Click on the link for this excellent, highly topical article by Robin DiAngelo about the challenges white people (or any cultural elite) experience in adequately encountering and understanding … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on the Celtic Prayer of Approach

Posted on June 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

However aspirational this may seem (‘I am not subject to disappointment’), we agree with her about beautiful and wise. And it seems topical… Here are the words, for those who have trouble seeing Facebook links:- “Dear Ones – I’ve been … Continue reading →

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Dave Mearns on the counsellor’s practice of self-care

Posted on June 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Our view at this service is that by far the most important attribute of any therapist (and what we look for when therapists seek to volunteer here) is a strong, consistent commitment to their own self-care, awareness and personal growth. We take … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on when the ground falls away

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is noticing how hard, painful and confusing life is feeling for many in her world, both those she works with therapeutically and others – and how this is often her experience too at the moment. Lots of change and loss … Continue reading →

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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong

Posted on February 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Trust in the Fires of Disintegration

Posted on January 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Matt Licata on how our movement into what Carl Rogers described as ‘the good life’ – as we actualise – tends to involve our feeling our feelings more intensely, and more connection to our vulnerability, rather than the floaty Zen detachment … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön – Getting Unstuck

Posted on August 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has read a fair amount by Pema Chödrön, but this is the first time she has heard her speak….liking her energies, and the sense she gives of groundedness in herself. This is a useful talk on the importance … Continue reading →

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