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Toko-pa Turner – False belonging & conditionality

Posted on October 3, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Our longing for community and purpose is so powerful that it can drive us to join groups, relationships, or systems of belief that, to our diminished or divided self, give the false impression of belonging. But places of false belonging … Continue reading →

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The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay – Monica Cassani

Posted on October 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay Click on the above link to visit Monica’s site http://www.beyondmeds.com for this piece she published last week on ‘World Mental Health Day’. Her perspective and ours at this service have lots in common. Both … Continue reading →

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Your True Home – John O’Donohue

Posted on January 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit John O’Donohue’s page on Facebook for this beautiful meditation. We are struck that his conclusion is the same as Carl Rogers – when we are able to come home to ourselves and be … Continue reading →

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Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak – Toko-pa

Posted on October 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s site for this beautiful and important piece on the personal and collective significance of dreaming, the ‘daimon’ and creativity in its widest sense:- ‘The daimon is in your … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Spinning Straw, by Tracy Cochran Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer … Continue reading →

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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Be An Island – Tracy Cochran

Posted on August 31, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Be an Island: Exercise #1 Click on the above link to visit Tracy’s own site for this helpful piece, which we found through Parabola Magazine on Facebook. Some of the fundamentals around mindfulness practice, presence and gratitude. Palace Gate Counselling Service, … Continue reading →

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Hildegard of Bingen on finding our own way home

Posted on August 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We cannot live in a world that is interpreted for us by others. An interpreted world is not a home. Part of the terror is to take back our own listening. To use our own voice. To see our own … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://qz.com/762868/giving-up-alcohol-opened-my-eyes-to-the-infuriating-truth-about-why-women-drink/ Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective – and feels just as relevant here. ‘We can’t afford to live lives … Continue reading →

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