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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading

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Gabor Maté – Toxic Culture, Bioneers Conference 2012

‘The birth and death of any phenomena is connected to the birth and death of all other phenomena. The one contains the many, and the many contains the one.’ The Buddha Insightful talk that the ever-watchable Gabor Maté gave at … Continue reading

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