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Winter’s Cloak – Joyce Rupp

Posted on December 11, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Winter’s Cloak This year I do not want The dark to leave me. I need its wrap Of silent stillness, Its cloak Of long lasting embrace. Too much light Has pulled me away from the chamber of gestation. Let the … Continue reading →

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak – Toko-pa

Posted on October 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2007/08/17/dreamspeak-tiny-acorn-mighty-oak/ Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s site for this beautiful and important piece on the personal and collective significance of dreaming, the ‘daimon’ and creativity in its widest sense:- ‘The daimon is in your goosebumps and sudden … Continue reading →

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Sweet Darkness – David Whyte

Posted on October 19, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful, resonant words and photograph from David’s Facebook page. Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- ‘SWEET DARKNESS When your eyes are tired the world is tired also. When your vision has gone, no part of … Continue reading →

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‘In the footsteps of the walking air’ Kenneth Patchen

Posted on April 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘In the footsteps of the walking air Sky’s prophetic chickens weave their cloth of awe And hillsides lift green wings in somber journeying. Night in his soft haste bumps on the shoulders of the abyss And a single drop of … Continue reading →

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

Posted on December 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Resting

Posted on December 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have not long posted a David Whyte link – and this feels so seasonally appropriate, and so lovely, that we are indulging ourselves. With hope that – wherever you are, and whatever this time of year has meant and … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

Posted in acceptance, Alan Watts, awakening, consciousness, Disconnection, dying, embodiment, emotions, empowerment, fear, flow, growth, human condition, identity, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, love, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, sadness & pain, self, sleep, spirituality, surrender, trust, vulnerability, wonder | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, Alan Watts, alienation, anxiety, awakening, awareness, belonging, Buddhist philosophy, connectedness, connection, consciousness, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, death, embodied presence, embodiment, energy flow, energy wave, existential anxiety, existential fear, existential terror, experience, experienced reality, fear, flow, happiness, hope, illusory reality, impermanence, insecurity, instinctual wisdom, integration, interconnectedness, interconnection, interdependence, low cost counselling exeter, memory, metamorphosis, mindfulness, observing self, organismic, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, past experience, person centred counselling exeter, personhood, presence, present experience, primary consciousness, relationship, Self, self help, self illusion, self-consciousness, selfhood, separation, terror, transformation, transience, unconscious wisdom, unconsciousness, wholeness, wisdom, www.brainpickings.org, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | 2 Comments

‘Lady Winter’ Theodora Goss

Posted on December 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://theodoragoss.com/2015/12/02/lady-winter/ This piece by Theodora Goss is absolutely beautiful, and profound. This darkest point in the year has a purpose and a wisdom, and we may all benefit from a visit to Lady Winter – the deep dreaming within (like the land … Continue reading →

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