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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on magical thinking

Posted on March 1, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Children are magical. “Step on a crack, break your mother’s back.” Magic is the belief that certain words, gestures, or behaviours can change reality. Dysfunctional parents often reinforce their children’s magical thinking. For example, if you tell children that their … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on stepping into our lives

Posted on April 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to Steph Bradley on Facebook for reposting this lovely poem, and thank you to Matt Licata for writing it. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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The Rupture of the Mother Line & the Cost of Becoming Real – Bethany Webster

Posted on February 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://womboflight.com/2014/12/21/the-rupture-of-the-mother-line-and-the-cost-of-becoming-real/ Fascinating article by Bethany on the mother-daughter relationship, its deeper potential and meanings, and the wounds inflicted by our culture. She explores the feminine journey into realness and wholeness, with mother as initiator or wounded saboteur – and how … Continue reading →

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