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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Spinning Straw, by Tracy Cochran Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Kali Takes America: I’m With Her. Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the … Continue reading →

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The Lid is Off – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on October 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/the-lid-is-off/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, important piece by Charles Eisenstein on www/charleseisenstein.net And here are some book links:- Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation

Posted on November 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading →

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‘The exiled scapegoats, the black sheep, the nonconformists & creative maladjusted’ – Monica Cassani

Posted on September 30, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The exiled scapegoats, the black sheep, the nonconformists and creative maladjusted… Click on the link for this interesting post by Monica on http://www.beyondmeds.com. We especially liked the following:- ‘Exiled scapegoats can, thus, return to serve the collective as agents of … Continue reading →

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The Inner World of Trauma: Archetypal Defences of the Personal Spirit – Donald Kalsched

Posted on August 16, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/08/14/inner-world-of-trauma/ Click on the link to visit this post about Donald Kalsched’s book: The Inner World of Trauma, on Monica Cassani’s useful and resource-rich blog, http://www.beyondmeds.com. We do a lot of work at this service with people bringing traumatic experiences to … Continue reading →

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