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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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The Inner World of Trauma: Archetypal Defences of the Personal Spirit – Donald Kalsched

Posted on August 16, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/08/14/inner-world-of-trauma/ Click on the link to visit this post about Donald Kalsched’s book: The Inner World of Trauma, on Monica Cassani’s useful and resource-rich blog, http://www.beyondmeds.com. We do a lot of work at this service with people bringing traumatic experiences to … Continue reading →

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