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The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay – Monica Cassani

Posted on October 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay Click on the above link to visit Monica’s site http://www.beyondmeds.com for this piece she published last week on ‘World Mental Health Day’. Her perspective and ours at this service have lots in common. Both … Continue reading →

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Do Psychiatrists Harm their Patients out of Stupidity? Michael Cornwall

Posted on June 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.madinamerica.com/2017/06/do-psychiatrists-harm-patients-out-of-stupidity/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.madinamerica.com for this accurate, perceptive piece by Michael about the ‘disease model’ of psychiatry, which lacks both an evidence base and humanity, and challenges basic common sense. Michael is writing in the … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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The Biggest Problem in Mental Health Treatment – Monica Cassani

Posted on January 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest problem in mental health treatment Click on the above link to visit Monica’s extremely valuable resource base at http://www.beyondmeds.com for this post – which accords with how we make sense of our work at this service:- ‘The biggest problem … Continue reading →

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My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →

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Raising your Havingness Ceiling – Toko-pa

Posted on October 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Raising your Havingness Ceiling Click on the above link for this wonderful post by Toko-pa, who is regularly featured here:- ‘As soon as we begin to feel resigned with things being as they are, it is time to resume the … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on empathy, compassion and boundaries

Posted on March 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Empathy: if you have done your work and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever and not get tired. Amen’. Yes. Empathy in the sense Brené is exploring does not deplete us, nor does it sit with our … Continue reading →

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