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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Being with my grief for the world – Justine Corrie

Posted on December 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for this timely and resonant post on Facebook by Justine. Here’s the text for those who have trouble reading Facebook links:- ‘Witnessing events and devastating suffering unfolding in Syria this week, exposure of yet more … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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Unconditional – David Whyte

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty reading Facebook links:- ‘UNCONDITIONAL love is not fully possible. Unconditional love is the necessary, dream-like, and invisible shoreline that continually draws us to its edge but where we can never fully … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Giving

Posted on December 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A seasonal meditation from David… Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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John Welwood on awakening from our conditioning

Posted on December 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If Love is like a sun whose radiant warmth causes us to stir and expand inside the seed of the husk of our conditioned personality, then as this protective shell starts to crack open, we are bound to experience moments of … Continue reading →

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The Mirror – Soul Searching Solace

Posted on November 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulsearchingsolace.com/2015/10/12/the-mirror/ Some time ago, the writer encountered this blog. The author shares with raw authenticity her intense pain – that of a mother whose child has died. There is a lot here to resonate with those of us who are … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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