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Ahmad Joudeh on being a Syrian dancer

Posted on July 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

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We Were Made For These Times – Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Posted on May 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.grahameb.com/pinkola_estes.htm Click on the link for this beautiful and inspiring piece from Clarissa. It won’t be new to some of you….and stands repeating. Thanks to Jewels Wingfield on Facebook for a timely reminder of this passage, in the run up … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein on how a war begins

Posted on November 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This Is How War Begins Click on the above link to visit Charles’ blog for this timely post, in the light of the U.S. election about to reach its outcome. We think the point he is making is essential. The … Continue reading →

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The Lid is Off – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on October 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Lid is Off Click on the link above for this perceptive, important piece by Charles Eisenstein on www/charleseisenstein.net And here are some book links:- https://www.amazon.co.uk/Beautiful-Hearts-Possible-Sacred-Activism/dp/1583947248/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-1&keywords=charles+eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sacred-Economics-Money-Society-Transition/dp/1583943978/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-2&keywords=charles+Eisenstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ascent-Humanity-Civilization-Human-Sense/dp/1583946365/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1476434506&sr=8-3&keywords=charles+eisenstein Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Attorney General Lynch & the ‘bathroom law’

Posted on June 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Seems a good day to post this. For those not following the story, North Carolina’s infamous ‘Bathroom law’ – amongst other things – requires transgender people to use toilets consistent with their birth gender, not their gender identity. Loretta Lynch’s powerful … Continue reading →

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‘5 Signs You’re on the Hero’s Journey’ Alison Nappi

Posted on January 5, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.writewithspirit.com/blog/5-signs-youre-on-the-heros-journey Yesterday’s post included a Joseph Campbell reference, and today we remain with the themes of the hero’s journey, and the importance of mythology in our quest for meaning. Laurie Penny and Alison Nappi have written very different pieces around these themes … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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Deeyah Khan ‘Women Are Part of the Solution to Extremism’

Posted on October 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/deeyah-khan/muslim-extremism-women_b_8251832.html?utm_hp_ref=uk&ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000067 Interesting, useful article by Deeyah. The writer (who is a woman) takes a reflective approach to posting pieces with a gendered approach. This is because her own sense is that the underlying issues in our cultures are about human … Continue reading →

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The Law Concerning Mermaids – Kei Miller

Posted on October 7, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is a mesmerizing reading by Kei of his wonderful poem…. The writer had not heard of him before today, then did hear about him, and found this randomly on You Tube. This poem feels oddly pertinent to the ongoing … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

Posted on October 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading →

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