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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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‘What are you afraid of?’ Pema Chödrön

Posted on February 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Pema is a Buddhist nun, with a great deal of wisdom, who has written a number of accessible, helpful books – there’s a link below. In this brief clip, she invites us down through the layers of our fears, and speaks … Continue reading →

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There is nothing wrong with you

Posted on October 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading →

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Stephen Jenkinson – The Making of Humans

Posted on October 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely short film from Ian MacKenzie, featuring Stephen Jenkinson’s work through his and Nathalie Jenkinson’s Orphan Wisdom School, which Stephen describes on his website as ‘a teaching house and learning house for the skills of deep living and making human culture. … Continue reading →

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