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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein on how a war begins

Posted on November 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This Is How War Begins Click on the above link to visit Charles’ blog for this timely post, in the light of the U.S. election about to reach its outcome. We think the point he is making is essential. The … Continue reading →

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White Fragility: Why it’s hard to talk to white people about racism – Robin DiAngelo

Posted on July 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism Click on the link for this excellent, highly topical article by Robin DiAngelo about the challenges white people (or any cultural elite) experience in adequately encountering and understanding … Continue reading →

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‘The Truelove’ David Whyte

Posted on February 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful poem about coming home to love, from David. Lovely picture too. One or two of our readers are having difficulty reading some FB links, so here is the text:- THE TRUELOVE There is a faith in loving fiercely the … Continue reading →

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Laurie Penny: The New Statesman – the issue for Europe is not migrants, but creeping fascism

Posted on August 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2015/08/europe-shouldn-t-worry-about-migrants-it-should-worry-about-creeping-fascism Powerful and accurate piece from Laurie, for which gratitude. ‘There is an urban legend about boiling frogs, and it goes like this. If you put a frog in a pan of cold water and slowly, slowly turn up the … Continue reading →

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