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Nayyirah Waheed on loving ourselves

Posted on May 13, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.” Nayyirah Waheed Yes, yes, yes. The core of therapy is about coming home … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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John O’Donohue on The Call To Live Everything

Posted on August 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue on diving into our wild depths of aliveness, and not settling. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- ‘THE CALL TO LIVE EVERYTHING One of the sad things today is that so many people … Continue reading →

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Grayson Perry on Gendering & Cultural Pressures

Posted on October 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this useful clip of Grayson Perry talking to Jon Snow on the extent to which gender and masculinity are culturally defined for children before they are even born. We notice at this service the huge … Continue reading →

Posted in child development, conditions of worth, cultural questions, Disconnection, diversity, empathy, Gender & culture, growing up, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, masculine, perception, relationship, self, self concept, shaming, transgender | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, belonging, Channel 4 News Identity, conditions of worth, conditions of worth for boys, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural bias, cultural conditioning, cultural ideas of masculinity, cultural identity, culture and gender, emotional intimacy, external locus, forming relationship, forming self concept, forming self structure, gender identity, gender roles, gender stereotypes, gendering, gendering children, Grayson Perry, healthy relationship, identity, interconnection, interdependence, internal locus, low cost counselling exeter, masculinity, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, repressing emotion, repressing feeling, self concept, self-structure, shaming, shaming boys, shaming men, suppressing emotion, suppressing feeling, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

In That Year – Kim Moore

Posted on October 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In That Year And in that year my body was a pillar of smoke and even his hands could not hold me. And in that year my mind was an empty table and he laid his thoughts down like dishes of … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Shadow Work & Love

Posted on September 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here is the text for those who have difficulty in reading Facebook links:- ‘To do the work of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on love & empathy

Posted on August 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To love another as a person we must begin by granting him his own autonomy and identity as a person. We have to love him for what he is in himself, and not for what he is to us. We … Continue reading →

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Collapse of social structures as part of the awakening process – Thomas Hübl

Posted on August 5, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit You Tube for this excerpt from an interview with Thomas Hübl at the Science and Nonduality Conference 2011. This is about organismic experiencing, self concept and actualizing, at a cultural level. It concerns the … Continue reading →

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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →

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