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Category Archives: childhood abuse
Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt
https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →
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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness
https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →
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‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté
https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →
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My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6
https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →
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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer
http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →
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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa
The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →
Posted in body psychotherapy, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, dying, Eating, embodiment, emotions, fear, growth, healing, identity, loneliness, metaphor & dream, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, sleep, suicide, Toko-pa, trauma, vulnerability
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Breaking News: The Cause of Schizophrenia Finally Discovered? Noel Hunter
http://psychintegrity.org/breaking-news-the-cause-of-schizophrenia-finally-discovered/ Follow the above link for Noel’s piece. It’s a long, well-written and well researched article, essential reading for anyone in our line of work. The writer too has watched with some dismay, the viral description of the Sekar et al. … Continue reading →
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Human
For the writer, this says all that is necessary. It illustrates what is (catastrophically) left out of account by the ‘perpetrator’/’victim’ binary mindset favoured in our cultures as they stand…. Thank you to Yaacov Darling Khan for posting this on Facebook, and … Continue reading →
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Tagged 'evil', abuse, accountability, adverse childhood event, adverse childhood experience, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, anger, awakening, blaming, childhood abuse, communication, compassion, conditions of worth, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, criminal justice system, disconnection, empathy, encounter, forgiveness, fragmentation, Gabor Mate, Human, kindness, learning to love, low cost counselling exeter, modeling love, modelling love, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, relationship, self concept, separation, shadow, transformation, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk, Yann Arthus-Bertrand
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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown
http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994
Posted in abuse, acceptance, actualizing tendency, awakening, blaming, body psychotherapy, bodywork, child development, childhood abuse, communication, conditions of worth, conflict, consciousness, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, dying, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, external locus, family systems, fear, forgiveness, generational trauma, grief, growing up, guilt, healing, human condition, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Jeff Brown, kindness & compassion, loss, love, parenting, perception, person centred, presence, reality, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shame, shaming, surrender, transformation, trauma, trust, vulnerability
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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation
‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading →
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