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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Woman was too scared to leave job centre during a heart attack, fearing sanctions – Kitty S Jones

Posted on May 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://kittysjones.wordpress.com/2017/05/20/woman-was-too-scared-to-leave-job-centre-during-a-heart-attack-as-she-feared-being-sanctioned/ Click on the above link to visit Kitty’s blog for this piece on the brutal, damaging DWP work assessment system. This begins with one woman’s appalling experience, and then makes some general points. Kitty refers to Ken Loach’s powerful, … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on magical thinking

Posted on March 1, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Children are magical. “Step on a crack, break your mother’s back.” Magic is the belief that certain words, gestures, or behaviours can change reality. Dysfunctional parents often reinforce their children’s magical thinking. For example, if you tell children that their … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on Congruence

Posted on January 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The sixth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. ‘Why is congruence important? Like empathy and unconditional positive regard, congruence makes it easier for the client to trust the counsellor and the counselling process. If the client accepts the congruence … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation

Posted on November 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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