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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Maya Angelou on Forgiving yourself

Posted on October 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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On Becoming a Beautiful Mind – John O’Donohue

Posted on July 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.johnodonohue.com/words/art Follow the link for this brief and poignant summary of a talk that John intended to give in Canada in 2008 – had death not intervened. It seems to sum up some of the essence of John, and also part of … Continue reading →

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Rainer Maria Rilke on Sadness

Posted on November 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“It seems to me that almost all our sadnesses are moments of tension, which we feel as paralysis because we no longer hear our astonished emotions living. Because we are alone with the unfamiliar presence that has entered us; because … Continue reading →

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Monica Cassani on the Shadow Child

Posted on August 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful, touching sequence, on the shadow child within who needs welcoming home, who needs our love and attention, if we are to be able to offer ourselves love and attention inwardly, and radiate that outwards in our lives. Song of … Continue reading →

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Brian Thorne on the person-centered therapist’s ‘family within’

Posted on May 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Compassion for the body will be a cornerstone of the person centred therapist’s spiritual discipline but so, too, will be an acceptant and empathic response to his or her inner world where conflicting voices and a confusing array of configurations … Continue reading →

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