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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, autonomy, conditions of worth, cultural questions, cultural taboos, emotions, empathy, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, guilt, hearing voices, immanence, internal locus of evaluation, Jung, kindness & compassion, perception, power and powerlessness, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, shame, unconditional positive regard, values & principles, violence, vulnerability | Tagged acceptance, affirmations, alienation, attachment to beliefs, attempt to reassure, autonomy, awareness, being alongside, being disliked, being judged, belief and sense of purpose, belief systems, better than, body shame, boundaries, cocooning, colluding, community, configurations of self, conflicting beliefs, connection, core belief, cycles of anxiety, cycles of overwhelm, cycles of self loathing, cycles of shame, darker side of being human, death cafes, desire to be hurt, desire to hurt, dialoguing, differing perceptions, differing realities, differing understandings, difficult emotions, discerning, dishonesty, distressing belief, distrust, Elisabeth Svanholmer, emotional withdrawal, emotions, equality, ethical standards, existential meaning, expanding awareness, expressing needs, expression of needs, feeling ashamed of fantasies, feeling ashamed of thoughts, feeling chosen, feeling disconnected, feeling dismissed, feeling frustrated, feeling powerless, feeling special, feeling superior, feeling unacceptable, feeling undeserving, feeling unlovable, feeling unworthy, finding hope, fixing, giving yourself permission, gratitude, hardwired for connection, harshness, harshness to self, hating yourself, having horrible thoughts, hearing multiple voices, hearing voices, hiding from others, hiding from self, higher power, holding beliefs lightly, holding reality lightly, holding space, honouring parts of self, hopefulness, horribleness, human needs, humble, humility, immanence, incongruence, inferiority, intentions, keeping safe, making sense of experience, megalomania, not knowing, numbing, offering reassurance, organising experiences, others’ expectations, pain of self loathing, pep talks, perceptions, pleasing everybody, pleasing people, positive affirmations, protective beliefs, proving yourself, reassuring, recognition, repression, rescuing, secret keeping, seeking approval, seeking reassurance, seeking relief, self care, self compassion, self concept, self containment, self empathy, self hate, self love, self pity, self protection, self talk, self-loathing, self-structure, sense of equality, sense of purpose, shadow, shame, shameful dreams, simplifying beliefs, something wrong with me, spiritual bypass, states of being, staying safe, superiority, suppression, taboos, temporary emotional states, trust, trying to be liked, uncertainty, uncertainty of multiple realities, uncomfortable emotions, unconditional positive regard, unconscious behaviour, unconscious living, unique being, violence, violence to self, Voice Dialogue, withdrawing, witnessing, worthiness, www.livinglifegently.live | Leave a comment

Person-centred Basics: Janet Tolan on Subtle Contact

Posted on December 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The fifth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. “There is a further way in which we make contact with each other. There seems to be no term for it in Western psychological thought, and so I will call it … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, Carl Rogers, communication, congruence, core conditions, empathy, encounter, growth, Janet Tolan, love, non-directive counselling, Palace Gate Counselling Service, person centred, person centred theory, presence, relationship, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, trust, working with clients | Tagged actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, authenticity, authenticity in counselling, authenticity in therapy, awareness, Carl Rogers, congruence, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor availability, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, emotional connection, emotional contact, empathic listening, empathy, encounter, expanding awareness, incongruence, intimacy, Janet Tolan, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, PCA, person centered approach, person centered theory, person centred counselling exeter, person-centred approach, person-centred theory, presence, psychological contact, relational depth, relationship, Skills in Person-centred Counselling, subtle contact, therapeutic process, therapeutic relationship, therapist availability, whole person, working with clients, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Mark Epstein on Unconditional Love

Posted on October 7, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘I think this idea of unconditional love is a little dangerous, because the way most people try to provide it – whether mothers or therapists – is by being fake. Who can really love everyone all the time? So if … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, actualizing tendency, congruence, core conditions, internal locus of evaluation, love, person centred, relationship, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, working with clients | Tagged acceptance, affordable counselling exeter, Be Here Angry Now, Brent Potter, Buddhist Review, conditional love, conditionality, conditions of worth, congruence, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, Excerpt from a Tricycle, inauthenticity, incongruence, judgement, low cost counselling exeter, Mark Epstein, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, presentation, therapist faking, therapist qualities, tolerance, tolerance in relationship, tolerance of feeling, unconditional love, UPR, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

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