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John O’Donohue on The Call To Live Everything

Posted on August 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue on diving into our wild depths of aliveness, and not settling. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- ‘THE CALL TO LIVE EVERYTHING One of the sad things today is that so many people … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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On Becoming a Beautiful Mind – John O’Donohue

Posted on July 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Art Of Developing A Beautiful Mind Follow the link for this brief and poignant summary of a talk that John intended to give in Canada in 2008 – had death not intervened. It seems to sum up some of the essence … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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