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John O’Donohue on The Call To Live Everything

Posted on August 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue on diving into our wild depths of aliveness, and not settling. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- ‘THE CALL TO LIVE EVERYTHING One of the sad things today is that so many people … Continue reading →

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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame

Posted on April 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →

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On Becoming a Beautiful Mind – John O’Donohue

Posted on July 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Art Of Developing A Beautiful Mind Follow the link for this brief and poignant summary of a talk that John intended to give in Canada in 2008 – had death not intervened. It seems to sum up some of the essence … Continue reading →

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Dave Mearns on the counsellor’s practice of self-care

Posted on June 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Our view at this service is that by far the most important attribute of any therapist (and what we look for when therapists seek to volunteer here) is a strong, consistent commitment to their own self-care, awareness and personal growth. We take … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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Jane Fonda on Life’s Third Act for TEDx Women

Posted on October 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting talk by Jane about how the ascension of the human spirit reverses entropy (the universal arc of deterioration and decay), and how moving into our ‘Elder’ years has the potential to bring us ‘into wholeness, authenticity and wisdom’. The … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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Rune Moelbak: Is Talking Disappearing from Depression Therapy? (Commentary)

Posted on August 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.bettertherapy.com/blog/depression-therapy/ Click on the link for this post from Rune Moelbak in the U.S. Rune is psychodynamic in orientation, so his language and ideas differ somewhat from our person-centred perspective – but we resonate with the points he makes. Our … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on ‘Hiding’

Posted on March 23, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

David Whyte on ‘Hiding’ Click on the title for the full excerpt on Facebook. Subtle, complex, perceptive words from David Whyte’s essay on ‘Hiding’, in his forthcoming book of essays: CONSOLATIONS: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words. Any therapist … Continue reading →

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