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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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Jordan Peterson on Finding a Voice

Posted on June 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has a sense that she and Jordan might see some fundamental things differently….and she is pretty much word for word with him on this, although (at least sometimes) she might say it with softer energies these days…. … Continue reading →

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We Were Made For These Times – Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Posted on May 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.grahameb.com/pinkola_estes.htm Click on the link for this beautiful and inspiring piece from Clarissa. It won’t be new to some of you….and stands repeating. Thanks to Jewels Wingfield on Facebook for a timely reminder of this passage, in the run up … Continue reading →

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Maya Angelou on Forgiving yourself

Posted on October 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on how to hold ourselves lovingly when life’s tough

Posted on August 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this Facebook post by Liz Gilbert (of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ fame). We posted something from Liz not that long ago – and this feels important, so here is another… People who come to this service … Continue reading →

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Professor Michael Dougan on the EU Referendum Debate

Posted on June 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This may seem like an unusual post for a counselling service. However, this is a huge decision that will impact all our lives for many years to come, and the lives of those yet to come. Like Michael, we have serious … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön on Blaming

Posted on March 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who’s right and who’s wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and … Continue reading →

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Human

Posted on November 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

For the writer, this says all that is necessary. It illustrates what is (catastrophically) left out of account by the ‘perpetrator’/’victim’ binary mindset favoured in our cultures as they stand…. Thank you to Yaacov Darling Khan for posting this on Facebook, and … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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James Garbarino on the connection between adult violence & childhood trauma

Posted on June 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s a brief excerpt to give you the flavour. James Garbarino is a psychologist, a writer, and a professor at Loyola University in Chicago, who has spent years working with men convicted of violent crimes. His (experiential and evidenced) perspective … Continue reading →

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