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Nayyirah Waheed on loving ourselves

Posted on May 13, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.” Nayyirah Waheed Yes, yes, yes. The core of therapy is about coming home … Continue reading →

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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté

Posted on March 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →

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Maya Angelou on Forgiving yourself

Posted on October 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you … Continue reading →

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Angel-A by Luc Besson

Posted on November 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It’s difficult to love yourself when you cannot see your reflection.’ Beautiful piece with Rie Rasmussen and Jamel Debbouze, about how we need to (and how we learn to) see and love our own person. The context differs, but this … Continue reading →

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Words – Ruth Stone

Posted on March 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Words ‘Wallace Stevens says, “A poet looks at the world as a man looks at a woman.” I can never know what a man sees when he looks at a woman. That is a sealed universe. On the outside of … Continue reading →

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Micaela Blei – New York City Moth StorySLAM – ‘Altered’

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Micaela’s winning story. Beautiful, on many levels….. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Micah Ingle on Loving Openly

Posted on May 26, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘One of the coolest things I saw in Houston this past week was at a Mediterranean restaurant. We were sitting outside and this clever bird found a great food source in the abandoned leftovers of customers who had just left. … Continue reading →

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