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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, autonomy, conditions of worth, cultural questions, cultural taboos, emotions, empathy, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, guilt, hearing voices, immanence, internal locus of evaluation, Jung, kindness & compassion, perception, power and powerlessness, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, shame, unconditional positive regard, values & principles, violence, vulnerability | Tagged acceptance, affirmations, alienation, attachment to beliefs, attempt to reassure, autonomy, awareness, being alongside, being disliked, being judged, belief and sense of purpose, belief systems, better than, body shame, boundaries, cocooning, colluding, community, configurations of self, conflicting beliefs, connection, core belief, cycles of anxiety, cycles of overwhelm, cycles of self loathing, cycles of shame, darker side of being human, death cafes, desire to be hurt, desire to hurt, dialoguing, differing perceptions, differing realities, differing understandings, difficult emotions, discerning, dishonesty, distressing belief, distrust, Elisabeth Svanholmer, emotional withdrawal, emotions, equality, ethical standards, existential meaning, expanding awareness, expressing needs, expression of needs, feeling ashamed of fantasies, feeling ashamed of thoughts, feeling chosen, feeling disconnected, feeling dismissed, feeling frustrated, feeling powerless, feeling special, feeling superior, feeling unacceptable, feeling undeserving, feeling unlovable, feeling unworthy, finding hope, fixing, giving yourself permission, gratitude, hardwired for connection, harshness, harshness to self, hating yourself, having horrible thoughts, hearing multiple voices, hearing voices, hiding from others, hiding from self, higher power, holding beliefs lightly, holding reality lightly, holding space, honouring parts of self, hopefulness, horribleness, human needs, humble, humility, immanence, incongruence, inferiority, intentions, keeping safe, making sense of experience, megalomania, not knowing, numbing, offering reassurance, organising experiences, others’ expectations, pain of self loathing, pep talks, perceptions, pleasing everybody, pleasing people, positive affirmations, protective beliefs, proving yourself, reassuring, recognition, repression, rescuing, secret keeping, seeking approval, seeking reassurance, seeking relief, self care, self compassion, self concept, self containment, self empathy, self hate, self love, self pity, self protection, self talk, self-loathing, self-structure, sense of equality, sense of purpose, shadow, shame, shameful dreams, simplifying beliefs, something wrong with me, spiritual bypass, states of being, staying safe, superiority, suppression, taboos, temporary emotional states, trust, trying to be liked, uncertainty, uncertainty of multiple realities, uncomfortable emotions, unconditional positive regard, unconscious behaviour, unconscious living, unique being, violence, violence to self, Voice Dialogue, withdrawing, witnessing, worthiness, www.livinglifegently.live | Leave a comment

White Fragility: Why it’s hard to talk to white people about racism – Robin DiAngelo

Posted on July 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism Click on the link for this excellent, highly topical article by Robin DiAngelo about the challenges white people (or any cultural elite) experience in adequately encountering and understanding … Continue reading →

Posted in accountability, blaming, civil rights, communication, conditions of worth, congruence, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Disconnection, education, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, identity, interconnection & belonging, meaning, Monica Cassani, paradigm shift, perception, political, power, power and powerlessness, reality, relationship, scapegoating, self, self concept, shadow, violence | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, anti-intellectualism, authentic engagement, authentic interaction, authenticity, awareness, belonging, binary, bridging cross racial divides, bridging racial divides, challenge to authority, challenges to identity, complex thinking, conditioning, conditions of worth, conscious bias, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cross-racial relationship, cultural taboos, dealing with challenge, defending, destabilizing experience, difficult feedback, difficult feeling, disengagement, economic inequality, economic racism, embedded interests, embedded patterns, emotional opinions, empathy, encountering challenge, engagement, entitlement, equilibrium, frame of reference, good bad binary, Good Men Project, group membership, group power dynamics, group power relations, hierarchy, honest appraisal, humility, identity threat, ignorance, implicit bias, individualism, inequality, informed opinions, institutionalized racial power, intentional harm, internalised meanings, internalised messages, internalised patterns, internalized meanings, internalized messages, internalized patterns, internalized sense, isolation, Kate Feathers, lack of awareness, lack of humility, low cost counselling exeter, mainstream culture, mainstream media, meritocracy, minimising, minimizing, Monica Cassani, multicultural education, multiple perspectives, not belonging, objectivity, openness, oppression, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, penalisation, penalization, person centred counselling exeter, politics of oppression, power in groups, psychic freedom, race-based stress, racial arrogance, racial belonging, racial certitude, racial comfort, racial dominance, racial expectations, racial groups, racial hierarchies, racial illiteracy, racial inequality, racial interests, racial oppression, racial perspective, racial perspectives, racial power, racial prejudice, racial segregation, racial stress, racialized experience, racialized frame of reference, racism, racism as a system, racist acts, reassuring cultural messages, recovering equilibrium, reflection, refusal to continue engagement, religious iconography, responding to challenge, retaliation, Robin DiAngelo, segregation, self concept, self-structure, shadow, social science, social segregation, socialization, socially sanctioned responses, stereotyping, subjectivity, superiority, sustained engagement, system of racism, systematic racism, systemic racism, taboos, tolerance, triggers, uncomfortable feeling, unconscious bias, unequal access, unequal relationship, unfamiliar perspectives, unracialized identity, vested interests, white authority, white centrality, white defensiveness, white dominance, white entitlement, white fragility, white privilege, white racial innocence, white solidarity, white supremacy, white taboos, withdrawal, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

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