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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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In That Year – Kim Moore

Posted on October 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In That Year And in that year my body was a pillar of smoke and even his hands could not hold me. And in that year my mind was an empty table and he laid his thoughts down like dishes of … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, conditions of worth, creativity, Disconnection, Gender & culture, grief, healing, identity, Kim Moore, loneliness, loss, metaphor & dream, poetry, power and powerlessness, relationship, sadness & pain, self, self concept, shadow, surrender, transformation, trauma, vulnerability | Tagged abuse, abusive relationship, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, aloneness, Art of Falling, brokenness, conditions of worth, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, David Morley, despair, experiencing abuse, experiencing trauma, feeling powerless, grief process, grieving, identity, isolation, isolation in relationship, Kim Moore, loneliness in relationship, loss of autonomy, loss of identity, loss of self, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, powerlessness, self concept, self-structure, sense of identity, sense of self, shadow, trauma, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Oriah Mountain Dreamer on meeting weariness of spirit

Posted on October 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This Facebook post from Oriah Mountain Dreamer feels like an important one, for any of us experiencing dips into despair, overwhelm and lassitude at the state of our world, and the apparent immensity of the task for those of us … Continue reading →

Posted in consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, empowerment, encounter, fear, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, paradigm shift, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, resilience, sadness & pain, self, spirituality, trauma, vulnerability | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, altruism, burn out, closeness to nature, compassionate presence, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, cultural sickness, cynicism, despair, despair at the state of the world, disconnectedness, disconnection, disempowerment, disillusion, distracting, empowerment, encounter, existential despair, existential fear, existential meaning, feeling powerless, hopelessness, keeping up hope, keeping up hopefulness, lassitude, low cost counselling exeter, maintaining hope, maintaining hopefulness, mindfulness, negative spiral, old paradigm, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, overwhelm, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, presence, relationship, replenishing, resilience, self care, self love, shadow, spirituality, tenderness, tending to the soul, trauma, vulnerability, world weariness, world weary, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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