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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Joy – David Whyte

Posted on September 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

David has dedicated this post today on his Facebook page to his daughter, who is beginning college. May all those venturing into the world, and those who love them, experience joy and aliveness. Here is the text, for those who … Continue reading →

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Unconditional – David Whyte

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty reading Facebook links:- ‘UNCONDITIONAL love is not fully possible. Unconditional love is the necessary, dream-like, and invisible shoreline that continually draws us to its edge but where we can never fully … Continue reading →

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Not This – Liz Gilbert

Posted on April 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A helpful post from Liz (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) Gilbert. Many of the people who come to our service have reached the point of ‘Not This’. Those arriving at this realization may have no idea how to extricate themselves from the situation they are … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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‘The Truelove’ David Whyte

Posted on February 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful poem about coming home to love, from David. Lovely picture too. One or two of our readers are having difficulty reading some FB links, so here is the text:- THE TRUELOVE There is a faith in loving fiercely the … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Gabrielle Roth, 1941-2012: Disciple of the Deep Dark Divine – Eliezer Sobel

Posted on October 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-99th-monkey/201310/gabrielle-roth-1941-2012-disciple-the-deep-dark-divine ‘You didn’t really think this was about dancing, did you?’ This is the follow up to yesterday’s short film showing 5 Rhythms dance, a wonderful article by Eliezer about Gabrielle Roth, the movement’s founder. There is a lot in … Continue reading →

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Small Talk – Life on a Farm – Luanne Armstrong

Posted on October 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/small-talk-life-farm Fascinating and lovely piece by Luanne, about engagement with the natural world. Reminded us too, of this recent post featuring Charles Eisenstein, also about changing how we relate to the non-human world. https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2015/08/12/charles-eisenstein-the-ecosexual-awakening/ It seems to us that the … Continue reading →

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Drake Spaeth – Silence, Shunning, & Shying Away: Destroying Personhood & Connection Through Preserving the Peace

Posted on September 28, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.saybrook.edu/newexistentialists/posts/09-25-14 Click on the link for this interesting and useful article by Drake Spaeth, about how we can harm/diminish ourselves and others by keeping silent in relationship around difficult feeling and conflict. We especially liked:- ‘If I feel that parts of me … Continue reading →

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