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Maya Luna, on staying with….

Posted on December 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful, accurate poem from Maya’s Facebook page. Here are the words, for anyone who has difficulty reading FB links:- “If you cannot help me If you cannot heal me If you cannot solve My problem Will you stay anyways? Just … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, core conditions, cultural questions, emotions, empathy, encounter, grief, healing, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, Maya Luna, person centred, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, surrender, tears, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged accompanying, accompanying another, accompanying someone, affordable counselling exeter, being alongside, brokenness, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, feeling broken, holding space, low cost counselling exeter, Maya Luna, mend my life, not fixing, not trying to fix, other as mirror, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, trust the process, trusting the process, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Rachel Naomi Remen on the wounded healer

Posted on September 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Wounding and healing are not opposites. They’re part of the same thing. It is our wounds that enable us to be compassionate with the wounds of others. It is our limitations that make us kind to the limitations of other … Continue reading →

Posted in compassion, core conditions, empathy, encounter, healing, kindness & compassion, loneliness, presence, Rachel Naomi Remen, relationship, sadness & pain, shame | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, being ashamed, being compassionate with others, compassion, compassionate attention, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, feeling shame, holding space, low cost counselling exeter, offering compassion, offering empathy, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, Rachel Naomi Remen, why we need our limitations, wounded healer, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Oriah Mountain Dreamer – The Invitation

Posted on September 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, awakening, beauty, compassion, congruence, consciousness, core conditions, creativity, Dance, embodiment, emotions, empathy, encounter, fear, flow, friendship, gratitude, grief, human condition, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, love, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, perception, poetry, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, relationship, resilience, risk, sadness & pain, self, self concept, surrender, transformation, vulnerability, wonder | Tagged adventure of being alive, affordable counselling exeter, aliveness, authenticity, avoiding pain, beauty and prettiness, being seen, being true to self, betrayal, closing your heart, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, ecstasy, ecstatic dance, encounter, existential meaning, experiencing pain, feeling alive, fully alive, going through the fire, grace, grief and loss, grief process, grieving process, heart's longing, holding space, intimacy, Invitation, letting ourselves be seen, living your truth, low cost counselling exeter, meeting adversity, needing to hide, not fixing, not rescuing, not solving, opening and closing, opening emotionally, opening your heart, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, presence, realness, resilience, resourcing yourself, self protection, self resourcing, sense of limitation, sense of possibility, sitting with pain, speaking your truth, standing in the fire, true to self, trying to avoid pain, wildness, willingness to be seen, willingness to take risks, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

5 things I wish you knew before euthanizing your dog – Kelsey Beth Carpenter

Posted on July 13, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://pupjournal.com/5-things-wish-knew-euthanizing/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=pj-share Click on the above link for this reflective, kind, helpful piece on a difficult theme by a veterinary technician. The writer of this post has seen many beloved creatures on their final journeys, and resonated with these comments, whether … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, accountability, communication, compassion, cultural questions, cultural taboos, dependence, dying, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, ethics, gratitude, grief, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, loss, love, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, tears, trust, vulnerability | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, death process, dying process, euthanasia, euthanising, euthanizing, grief and loss, grief process, grieving process, holding space, honoring endings, honouring endings, Kelsey Beth Carpenter, letting go, losing a pet, loss of a pet, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, pet bereavement, relationship with a pet, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, autonomy, client as 'expert', congruence, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, growth, healing, love, Monica Cassani, non-directive counselling, Palace Gate Counselling Service, person centred, person centred theory, power and powerlessness, psychiatry, self, self concept, self esteem, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, working with clients | Tagged acceptance, acceptance in relationship, acceptance in therapy, actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, autonomy in counselling, autonomy in therapy, being broken, brokenness, client as expert, client as whole, core conditions, counselling ethics, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, diminishing relationship, discovering who you are, disempowering, disempowerment in counselling, disempowerment in therapy, egalitarianism, empowering, encounter, equality in therapy, ethic of service, external locus, feeling broken, fixing and helping, healing power of acceptance, helping and fixing, holding space, holistic approach, holistic approach to mental illness, holistic well being, in it together, inner journey, inner landscape, inner work, interior landscape, labeling, labelling, Lived Experience, low cost counselling exeter, mental health labels, mental health model, Monica Cassani, need for acceptance, non hierarchical relationship, non-directive counselling, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, perpetrating counsellor, perpetrating healer, perpetrating therapist, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personhood, politics of oppression, providing support, Rachel Naomi Remen, reductive relationship, safe space, self concept, self esteem, self-structure, sense of wholeness, space holding, unconditional positive regard, UPR, www.beyondmeds.com, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

Posted in accountability, actualizing tendency, congruence, core conditions, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, ethics, growth, healing, non-directive counselling, organismic experiencing, Palace Gate Counselling Service, person centred, person centred theory, presence, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, working with clients | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, authenticity, awareness, becoming a counsellor, becoming a therapist, congruence, core conditions, core wounds, counselling exeter, counsellor development, counsellor doing own work, counsellor Exeter, counsellor modelling, counsellor personal development, counsellor process, counsellor self awareness, counsellors Exeter, expanding awareness, holding space, holistic being, holistic working in counselling, holistic working in therapy, inauthenticity in counselling, inauthenticity in therapy, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parallel process, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personal qualities of counsellor, personal qualities of therapist, presence, presence of counsellor in sessions, presence of therapist in sessions, self awareness, self empathy, self experiencing, the client knows, therapist development, therapist doing own work, therapist modelling, therapist personal development, therapist process, therapist self awareness, unmet needs, working with clients, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Helping my daughter become whom she is meant to be

Posted on March 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2012/06/helping-my-daughter-become-who-she-is-meant-to-be/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.handinhandparenting.org for this gorgeous and profound account of a mother supporting her 3 year old daughter through manifestations of distress, and thereby in dropping down into re-experiencing/processing and releasing birth trauma – with … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, anger, birth trauma, child development, communication, core conditions, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, family systems, fear, growing up, guilt, Hand in Hand Parenting, healing, interconnection & belonging, parenting, physical being, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, tears, transformation, trauma | Tagged ADHD, affordable counselling exeter, aggression in children, aggressive behaviour, allowing children to cry, allowing crying, allowing your child to cry, birth trauma, biting in children, bouts of aggression, catharsis, cathartic crying, cathartic response, childhood aggression, conscious parenting, core pain, core upset, core wound, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creating safe space, distress in children, effect of birth trauma, embodied pain, embodiment, emotional release, energy body, energy release, expressing fear, facilitating crying, facilitating tears, faddy eating, feeling trapped, guilt and remorse, Hand in Hand Parenting, healing through tears, helping your child with aggression, hitting in children, holding space, hyperactivity, hyperactivity and distress, listening to children, listening to your child, low cost counselling exeter, my child bites, my child hits, need to cry, needing to cry, offering closeness, pain body, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, picky eating, reactivity, releasing fear, Ritalin for children, safe space, staylistening, supporting behaviour change, transformative change, trapped energy, trust in the process, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

The Biggest Problem in Mental Health Treatment – Monica Cassani

Posted on January 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest problem in mental health treatment Click on the above link to visit Monica’s extremely valuable resource base at http://www.beyondmeds.com for this post – which accords with how we make sense of our work at this service:- ‘The biggest problem … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, actualizing tendency, autonomy, client as 'expert', community, consent, core conditions, cultural questions, diversity, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, flow, growth, healing, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, love, medical model, Monica Cassani, non-conforming, non-directive counselling, objectification, Palace Gate Counselling Service, paradigm shift, person centred, political, power and powerlessness, presence, psychiatric abuse, psychiatry, relationship, resilience, self, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, trauma, trust, unconditional positive regard, values & principles, violence, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, authority as violence, autonomy, coercion as violence, coercive mental health treatment, coercive psychiatric treatment, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, diversity, effective support, egalitarian society, expert patient model, external authority, external locus, first do no harm, holding space, internal locus, low cost counselling exeter, medical model, mental health, mental health labeling, mental health labelling, mental health system, mental health treatment, Monica Cassani, never know first never know better, offering support, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personal sovereignty, personhood, power in therapy, psychiatric coercion, psychiatric harm, psychiatric labeling, psychiatric labelling, psychiatric model, psychiatric system, psychiatric violence, sacred space, sacredness, safe space, supporting well being, therapeutic relationship, trusting own process, trusting the process, well-being, www.beyondmeds.com, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | 2 Comments

Being with my grief for the world – Justine Corrie

Posted on December 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for this timely and resonant post on Facebook by Justine. Here’s the text for those who have trouble reading Facebook links:- ‘Witnessing events and devastating suffering unfolding in Syria this week, exposure of yet more … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, autonomy, conditions of worth, cultural questions, cultural taboos, emotions, empathy, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, guilt, hearing voices, immanence, internal locus of evaluation, Jung, kindness & compassion, perception, power and powerlessness, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, shame, unconditional positive regard, values & principles, violence, vulnerability | Tagged acceptance, affirmations, alienation, attachment to beliefs, attempt to reassure, autonomy, awareness, being alongside, being disliked, being judged, belief and sense of purpose, belief systems, better than, body shame, boundaries, cocooning, colluding, community, configurations of self, conflicting beliefs, connection, core belief, cycles of anxiety, cycles of overwhelm, cycles of self loathing, cycles of shame, darker side of being human, death cafes, desire to be hurt, desire to hurt, dialoguing, differing perceptions, differing realities, differing understandings, difficult emotions, discerning, dishonesty, distressing belief, distrust, Elisabeth Svanholmer, emotional withdrawal, emotions, equality, ethical standards, existential meaning, expanding awareness, expressing needs, expression of needs, feeling ashamed of fantasies, feeling ashamed of thoughts, feeling chosen, feeling disconnected, feeling dismissed, feeling frustrated, feeling powerless, feeling special, feeling superior, feeling unacceptable, feeling undeserving, feeling unlovable, feeling unworthy, finding hope, fixing, giving yourself permission, gratitude, hardwired for connection, harshness, harshness to self, hating yourself, having horrible thoughts, hearing multiple voices, hearing voices, hiding from others, hiding from self, higher power, holding beliefs lightly, holding reality lightly, holding space, honouring parts of self, hopefulness, horribleness, human needs, humble, humility, immanence, incongruence, inferiority, intentions, keeping safe, making sense of experience, megalomania, not knowing, numbing, offering reassurance, organising experiences, others’ expectations, pain of self loathing, pep talks, perceptions, pleasing everybody, pleasing people, positive affirmations, protective beliefs, proving yourself, reassuring, recognition, repression, rescuing, secret keeping, seeking approval, seeking reassurance, seeking relief, self care, self compassion, self concept, self containment, self empathy, self hate, self love, self pity, self protection, self talk, self-loathing, self-structure, sense of equality, sense of purpose, shadow, shame, shameful dreams, simplifying beliefs, something wrong with me, spiritual bypass, states of being, staying safe, superiority, suppression, taboos, temporary emotional states, trust, trying to be liked, uncertainty, uncertainty of multiple realities, uncomfortable emotions, unconditional positive regard, unconscious behaviour, unconscious living, unique being, violence, violence to self, Voice Dialogue, withdrawing, witnessing, worthiness, www.livinglifegently.live | Leave a comment

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