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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Wetiko: Energy, Domination and Human Societies – Martin Kirk

Posted on July 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Wetiko: Energy, Domination and Human Societies This forms part of series of posts about cultural questions, and paradigm shift. Click on the link for Martin’s fascinating article. ‘Wetiko’ is an indigenous term, used in this context to refer to modern … Continue reading →

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Palace Gate Counselling Service – Independent Listener

Posted on August 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This post introduces a new role: our independent listener. This is a new external resource for our therapists. The Context We structure this service to provide plenty of support to our therapists, in what can be an isolating profession. At … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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Coming together and falling apart – Pema Chödrön

Posted on April 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. … Continue reading →

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Sufi Rashani: ‘There is a Brokenness’

Posted on February 21, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

There is a Brokenness ‘There is a brokenness out of which comes the unbroken, a shatteredness out of which blooms the unshatterable. There is a sorrow beyond all grief which leads to joy and a fragility out of whose depths … Continue reading →

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