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Toko-pa Turner – False belonging & conditionality

Posted on October 3, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Our longing for community and purpose is so powerful that it can drive us to join groups, relationships, or systems of belief that, to our diminished or divided self, give the false impression of belonging. But places of false belonging … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Francis Weller on our shrunk & impoverished experience of being alive

Posted on November 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Two favourites, Jewels Wingfield herself, and Francis Weller…. Here are the words, for those who have difficulty following Facebook links:- “Modern technological society has forgotten what it feels like to be embedded in a living culture, one rich with stories … Continue reading →

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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Robert Macfarlane on the Celtic culture of retreat, & wildness

Posted on August 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘[The] Celtic Christian culture of retreat originated in the Ireland of the fifth and sixth centuries. Begun by St Patrick in the 430s, and inspired by the desert saints of the preceding centuries, the practice of retreat spread to what … Continue reading →

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Trauma, injury, illness and waking up – Monica Cassani

Posted on June 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Trauma, injury, illness and waking up Click on the title link above for this post by Monica, whose site holds a great richness of resources for anyone seeking healing or seeking alternatives to the psychiatric model perspectives. This post has many … Continue reading →

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Henry Beston on our concept of animals

Posted on May 8, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We need another and a wiser and perhaps a more mystical concept of animals. For the animal shall not be measured by man. In a world older and more complete than ours they move finished and complete, gifted with extensions … Continue reading →

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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Why We’re Underestimating American Collapse – Umair Haque

Posted on February 1, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://eand.co/why-were-underestimating-american-collapse-be04d9e55235 Click on the above link to Eudaimonia’s site for this – perceptive, insightful and scarily accurate from where we are looking – piece by Umair Haque, on the cultural pathologies of the current US situation, and what this means … Continue reading →

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