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The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay – Monica Cassani

Posted on October 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay Click on the above link to visit Monica’s site http://www.beyondmeds.com for this piece she published last week on ‘World Mental Health Day’. Her perspective and ours at this service have lots in common. Both … Continue reading →

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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‘5 Signs You’re on the Hero’s Journey’ Alison Nappi

Posted on January 5, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.writewithspirit.com/blog/5-signs-youre-on-the-heros-journey Yesterday’s post included a Joseph Campbell reference, and today we remain with the themes of the hero’s journey, and the importance of mythology in our quest for meaning. Laurie Penny and Alison Nappi have written very different pieces around these themes … Continue reading →

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Madness and Beauty in the Heart of Darkness – Drake Spaeth

Posted on May 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.saybrook.edu/newexistentialists/posts/05-27-15 Click on the link for (sadly) the last of Drake Spaeth’s series of posts for Saybrook, this time with some thoughts arising on the recent death of John Nash, the brilliant mathematician whose life was the subject of Sylvia … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – Where is my vital edge?

Posted on March 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2015/02/26/where-is-my-vital-edge/ Click on the link for Toko-pa’s lovely blog, and this post on walking the line of our ‘vital edge’:- ‘We are both compelled by our wild nature into new forms of living, while also aching for the stability and … Continue reading →

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