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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on criticism of self/other

Posted on November 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, “‘What will they think of me?’ must be put aside for bliss.” … Continue reading →

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An Introduction to Transgender People: National Center for Transgender Equality

Posted on February 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have therapists at this service with experience working with transgender people* – and in this culture that work inevitably tends to include experiences of bigotry, discrimination, othering, intrusive behaviour, false assumptions and generalisations…the list goes on. Their clients’ … Continue reading →

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The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on November 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story Click on the link to visit Charles’ website and read this essay. In the writer’s view, Charles is one of the visionaries and big thinkers of our time, because he speaks … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on unfettered capitalism & coercive conformity

Posted on September 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The past two decades have witnessed unprecedented changes in the economic and political organisation of the world. We live, we are constantly told, in the era of globalisation, a euphemism for the triumph throughout the world of the so-called free … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds

Posted on November 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading →

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Annie Dillard on what lies beneath

Posted on November 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘In the deeps are the violence and terror of which psychology has warned us. But if you ride these monsters deeper down, if you drop with them farther over the world’s rim, you find what our sciences cannot locate or … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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