Tag Archives: overwhelm

Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, awakening, community, compassion, consciousness, cultural questions, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, encounter, ethics, fear, flow, grief, growth, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, loss, love, paradigm shift, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, surrender, tears, transformation, trauma, violence, vulnerability | Tagged Abraham Heschel, affordable counselling exeter, Akhilandeshvari, aliveness, all our relations, allowing feeling, allowing vulnerability, armouring, authenticity, Avalokiteshvara, being alongside, being broken, being with anxiety, being with pain, being with suffering, belonging, Black Elk, bodhisattva, broken heart, caring for others, chi, collective compassion, collective heart, compassion, compassion fatigue, connectedness, connection, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cries of the Holocaust, cries of the world, de-armouring, denial of being human, denial of humanity, Earth is the Lord’s, empathy, encounter, engaged heart, Enlightened Heart, expanding consciousness, expanding the heart, falling apart, fear of breaking and dissolving, fear of fear, feeling guilt, finding inner resource, finding inner strength, finding inward resource, finding inward strength, fully engaged heart, genocides, genuineness, Ghalib, going numb, grief bruises the heart, grief process, Guanyin, heartbreak, Heaven and Hell, holding the broken, holding the dying, honoring another’s pain, honouring another’s pain, how to help, importance of grief, importance of grieving, importance of lamenting, interbeing, interconnection, inward strength, Joseph Epes Brown, kindness, kinship, Kuan yin, Kwun, lacrimae rerum, lamenting, letting go, life energy, life force, living softly, low cost counselling exeter, making the mystery visible, Mark Nepo, Mirza Ghalib, mourning, mourning for others, mourning for the world, muting suffering, need to feel, need to internalise, need to internalize, need to process, never not broken, oneness, oneness with all things, opening the heart, opening to suffering, openness of heart, overload, overwhelm, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, Parabola Magazine, person centred counselling exeter, personal suffering, pleasure from suffering, powerlessness, pulling back, reclaiming humanity, refusal to stay vulnerable, replaying of tragedy, repressed grief, resistance, resources of life, Roman Holiday, running from fear, Sacred Pipe, sadism, sadness, saturation news coverage, Schadenfreude, sea of joy and sorrow, seeking to avoid suffering, sensitivity, shelter in the storm, simple caring, softening, song of existence, source of healing, space to reflect, spiritual growth, staying vulnerable, story-telling, suppressed grief, surrender, tenderness, tending the wounded, torn life, true connection, true kindness, unexpressed grief, unfolding, Unfurling, unnecessary suffering, unvoiced grief, violence, vulnerability, vulnerability and compassion, wanting to help, weight of grief, withdrawing, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Oriah Mountain Dreamer on meeting weariness of spirit

Posted on October 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This Facebook post from Oriah Mountain Dreamer feels like an important one, for any of us experiencing dips into despair, overwhelm and lassitude at the state of our world, and the apparent immensity of the task for those of us … Continue reading →

Posted in consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, empowerment, encounter, fear, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, paradigm shift, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, resilience, sadness & pain, self, spirituality, trauma, vulnerability | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, altruism, burn out, closeness to nature, compassionate presence, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, cultural sickness, cynicism, despair, despair at the state of the world, disconnectedness, disconnection, disempowerment, disillusion, distracting, empowerment, encounter, existential despair, existential fear, existential meaning, feeling powerless, hopelessness, keeping up hope, keeping up hopefulness, lassitude, low cost counselling exeter, maintaining hope, maintaining hopefulness, mindfulness, negative spiral, old paradigm, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, overwhelm, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, presence, relationship, replenishing, resilience, self care, self love, shadow, spirituality, tenderness, tending to the soul, trauma, vulnerability, world weariness, world weary, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

Posted in 'evil', Anne Lamott, compassion, conflict, consciousness, core conditions, criminal justice model, cultural questions, Disconnection, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, fear, forgiveness, friendship, good, healing, human condition, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, love, meaning, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, resilience, sadness & pain, shadow, trauma, violence, vulnerability | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, Anne Lamott, compassion, compassionate action, conflict resolution, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, de-escalating, dealing with overwhelm, encounter, healing connection, healing relationship, kindness, kindness boomerang, love thy neighbour, low cost counselling exeter, overwhelm, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, presence, radical self care, random acts of kindness, responding to fear, response to threat, self care, self compassion, spiritual activism, threat response, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

Posted in body psychotherapy, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, dying, Eating, embodiment, emotions, fear, growth, healing, identity, loneliness, metaphor & dream, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, sleep, suicide, Toko-pa, trauma, vulnerability | Tagged abandoning ourselves, abandoning yourself, abandonment, aliveness, ambiguity, archetype, assertion, authentic experience, authentic feelings, authenticity, auto-immune diseases, awareness, beauty, being unseen, belittling of the feminine, belonging, Bud Harris, child development, chronic fatigue, chronic pain, collapse, confusion, consciousness, cultural collective, cultural shadow, cultural wound, cultural wounding, Daniela Sieff, death, Death Mother, denigration, depression, devaluation, devaluation of feminine, disapproval, disconnection, disconnection from body, disembodied, disembodiment, dreaming, dreams, dreams and metaphor, dreamwork, earth mother, eating disorders, emotional heritage, emotional paralysis, emotional trauma, engaging with our dreams, expression, fear and overwhelm, fear of abandonment, fear of masculine, fear of men, feminine fear, feminine mistrust, feminine values, feminine wound, finding your voice, grief, grief process, grieving process, growth, healing trauma, inertia, inner valuation, internalised belief, Into the Heart of the Feminine, invalidation, Jungian analysis, longing for death, longing for oblivion, low self esteem, Marion Woodman, Massimilla Harris, Medusa myth, motherhood, mothering, myth, myth and symbol, needing support, order from chaos, out of awareness, overwhelm, overwhelming, paradox, paralysing energy, paralysis, personal shadow, physical expressions of loss of inner valuation, psyche, rejection, repulsion, sacred feminine, Self, self care, self concept, self harm, self neglect, self-abdication, self-structure, shadow, something is wrong with me, suicide, symbolic life, symbolism, Toko-pa, transformation, triggers, trusting yourself, Understanding and Healing Emotional Trauma, unwanted aspects of self, unworthiness, women, wounded psyche, yin | Leave a comment

Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

Posted in 'evil', accountability, anger, blaming, communication, compassion, conflict, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, Elizabeth Gilbert, emotions, empathy, ethics, fear, forgiveness, good, grief, guilt, human condition, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, love, objectification, paradigm shift, political, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, scapegoating, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, shame, trauma, trust, violence, vulnerability | Tagged action and reaction, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, altruism, anger, Beirut bombs, belonging, Big Magic, Buber, challenge, closed heart, closing borders, closing down, compassion, connectedness, connection, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, Creative Living Beyond Fear, dehumanising, dehumanizing, despair, difficult experience, difficult feeling, disconnecting, disconnection, Elizabeth Gilbert, empathy, eye for an eye, fear, feeling cornered, feeling threatened, forgiveness, fragmentation, generosity, grief, grieving, guilt, hard heart, human condition, human nature, human needs, humanity, I it relationship, insularity, interconnection, interdependence, Isis, isolation, kindness, lack of humanity, Liz Gilbert, loving kindness, low cost counselling exeter, Mali attack, mercilessness, mercy, objectification, objectifying, open heart, opening, oppression, othering, overwhelm, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, panic, Paris attack, people as things, person centred counselling exeter, power and powerlessness, presence, rage, reacting and responding, refugee crisis, relationship, revenge, revolution, sacrifice, self compassion, self concept, self hating, self hatred, self-structure, separation, sharing resources, softening, sorrow, suffering, tenderness, threat, uncomfortable experience, uncomfortable feeling, under threat, violence, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, actualizing tendency, awakening, blaming, Carl Rogers, consciousness, core conditions, Disconnection, emotions, empowerment, fear, flow, growth, human condition, internal locus of evaluation, organismic experiencing, Palace Gate Counselling Service, perception, person centred, person centred theory, power and powerlessness, presence, reality, resilience, risk, self, self concept, surrender, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged acceptability, affordable counselling exeter, approval of others, authenticity, autonomy, awareness, belonging, Carl Rogers, change, conditioning, conforming, conformity, connectedness, connection, conscious awareness, consciousness, control, controlling emotions, core conditions, counselling, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural conditioning, defiance, disconnecting, distorted reality, dominant emotion, dominating, domination, dualism, dualistic conception, dualistic world view, ecological systems, ego, ego defence, ego protection, ego structures, egoic mind, emotional states, empathy, existence-oriented, external locus, family conditioning, fear, feelings, flow, growth, harm, human nature, human needs, humanistic counselling, humanistic therapy, independence, integrating, integration, integration of the person, interconnectedness, interconnection, interdependence, John Rowan, low cost counselling exeter, mastery, mental ego, Mother’s Knee, motivating emotion, motivation, non-conforming, numbing, openness, organismic, overwhelm, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, panic, people pleasing, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personal power, placating, power, process, process distortion, psychotherapy, rational action, Reality Game, rebellion, relatedness-oriented, relationship, relationship-oriented, resilience, risk, safety, security, seeking approval, seeking validation, Self, self acceptance, self concept structures, self protection, selfish, social conditioning, social responsibility, spontaneity, therapeutic process, therapy, threat, transformation, trust, validating experience, working with the real self, working with the self, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Anne Lamott on what we actually need to hear….

Posted on May 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Well said. Often people come to this service who have been offered these pieces of advice or would-be comforting perceptions. They’ve heard them at home, from colleagues, on ‘inspirational’ sites, from a religious perspective, from therapists… this stuff pops up … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, actualizing tendency, Anne Lamott, communication, compassion, conditions of worth, congruence, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, friendship, gratitude, grief, human condition, humour, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, loneliness, loss, love, natural world, perception, person centred, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, self, shaming, spirituality, tears, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, trust, vulnerability | Tagged active listening, affordable counselling exeter, Al Franken, Anne Lamott, awareness, brutality, co-dependency, community, congruence, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, despair, difficult feeling, Duggar family, empathic listening, empathy, faith, fear, gratitude, grief process, grieving, happiness, holiness, hopelessness, human suffering, injustice, isolation, laughter, Lily Tomlin, loneliness, love, low cost counselling exeter, mystery, natural world, overwhelm, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, peace, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, positive thinking, rage, Ram Dass, rat race, relationship, sadness, sensitivity, shared humanity, spiritual accompaniment, spirituality, suffering, toxic relationship, trust, truth, uncomfortable feeling, unconditional positive regard, UPR, vulnerability, web of life, what not to say to someone who is grieving, what to say to someone who is grieving, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment