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Rainer Maria Rilke on Solitude

Posted on January 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast. And … Continue reading →

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‘5 Signs You’re on the Hero’s Journey’ Alison Nappi

Posted on January 5, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.writewithspirit.com/blog/5-signs-youre-on-the-heros-journey Yesterday’s post included a Joseph Campbell reference, and today we remain with the themes of the hero’s journey, and the importance of mythology in our quest for meaning. Laurie Penny and Alison Nappi have written very different pieces around these themes … Continue reading →

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Jonathan Carroll with a story about random kindness

Posted on December 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A New York taxi driver living through the core conditions. There is something really touching about this when-it-counts empathy – and the fragility and risk of that, how easy it would be to miss such a moment and its immense significance. “Three … Continue reading →

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The Longest Night by Angie Pickman

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We are welcoming the Winter Solstice, and the slow return of the light, with this lovely little animated film by Angie Pickman. May the coming months bring many blessings. Here is Angie’s Facebook page, which has lots more to enjoy. … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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John Welwood on awakening from our conditioning

Posted on December 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If Love is like a sun whose radiant warmth causes us to stir and expand inside the seed of the husk of our conditioned personality, then as this protective shell starts to crack open, we are bound to experience moments of … Continue reading →

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The Mirror – Soul Searching Solace

Posted on November 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulsearchingsolace.com/2015/10/12/the-mirror/ Some time ago, the writer encountered this blog. The author shares with raw authenticity her intense pain – that of a mother whose child has died. There is a lot here to resonate with those of us who are … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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