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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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‘What happened when I confronted my cruellest troll’ Lindy West

Posted on January 9, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb/02/what-happened-confronted-cruellest-troll-lindy-west?CMP=share_btn_tw Interesting piece by Lindy. From where we are looking, online/media bullying is one of the uglier of the many ugly aspects of our current culture. The writer finds shocking and bewildering some people’s willingness to make and express judgements … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count

Posted on November 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another useful talk from Brené Brown, which explores creativity, criticism and how she has learned to deal with it. She talks about how important it is that those of us she calls the ‘sweaty creatives’ – or, borrowing from Theodore Roosevelt’s famous words, … Continue reading →

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Gabrielle Roth, 1941-2012: Disciple of the Deep Dark Divine – Eliezer Sobel

Posted on October 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-99th-monkey/201310/gabrielle-roth-1941-2012-disciple-the-deep-dark-divine ‘You didn’t really think this was about dancing, did you?’ This is the follow up to yesterday’s short film showing 5 Rhythms dance, a wonderful article by Eliezer about Gabrielle Roth, the movement’s founder. There is a lot in … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön – Getting Unstuck

Posted on August 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has read a fair amount by Pema Chödrön, but this is the first time she has heard her speak….liking her energies, and the sense she gives of groundedness in herself. This is a useful talk on the importance … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky – The Price of Shame

Posted on March 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is wonderful. Thank you to Sarah Birdsall on Facebook for drawing it to our attention. Deeply thought-provoking, intelligent, heartfelt and moving – an inspiring example of someone who has taken their own horrible experience and transmuted it with courage … Continue reading →

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