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Why Ridiculous Official Propaganda Still Works – CJ Hopkins

Posted on January 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.counterpunch.org/2017/01/13/why-ridiculous-official-propaganda-still-works/ Click on the above link for this interesting article on http://www.counterpunch.org Hat tip to Charles Eisenstein for showing us this. We are going to go with the same excerpt Charles chose:- ‘The point is to draw a Maginot line, … Continue reading →

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2016: The Reveal – Charlotte Du Cann

Posted on December 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/2016-the-reveal/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.dark-mountain.net for Charlotte’s article, another powerful Zeitgeist piece at the end of a big, shadow-filled year:- ‘This alchemical moment has nothing to do with social justice, or environmentalism or any of the … Continue reading →

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My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Elie Wiesel on oppression and neutrality

Posted on July 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere. When human lives are … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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‘What happened when I confronted my cruellest troll’ Lindy West

Posted on January 9, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb/02/what-happened-confronted-cruellest-troll-lindy-west?CMP=share_btn_tw Interesting piece by Lindy. From where we are looking, online/media bullying is one of the uglier of the many ugly aspects of our current culture. The writer finds shocking and bewildering some people’s willingness to make and express judgements … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on the fundamentals of healing, teaching (& therapy)

Posted on December 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Update 29 December: for some reason, this link is not showing up for all readers (thank you, Thad!). In case that includes you, the Jeff Foster quotation is:- “A true healer does not heal you; she simply reflects back to … Continue reading →