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An Introduction to Transgender People: National Center for Transgender Equality

Posted on February 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have therapists at this service with experience working with transgender people* – and in this culture that work inevitably tends to include experiences of bigotry, discrimination, othering, intrusive behaviour, false assumptions and generalisations…the list goes on. Their clients’ … Continue reading →

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Attorney General Lynch & the ‘bathroom law’

Posted on June 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Seems a good day to post this. For those not following the story, North Carolina’s infamous ‘Bathroom law’ – amongst other things – requires transgender people to use toilets consistent with their birth gender, not their gender identity. Loretta Lynch’s powerful … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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‘What happened when I confronted my cruellest troll’ Lindy West

Posted on January 9, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb/02/what-happened-confronted-cruellest-troll-lindy-west?CMP=share_btn_tw Interesting piece by Lindy. From where we are looking, online/media bullying is one of the uglier of the many ugly aspects of our current culture. The writer finds shocking and bewildering some people’s willingness to make and express judgements … Continue reading →

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The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label by Margaret Altman

Posted on August 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label ‘Diagnoses such as schizophrenia mask all of the strengths, feelings and talents that individuals possess, The labels can make people’s behavior appear aggressive, when in fact they are … Continue reading →

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James Garbarino on the connection between adult violence & childhood trauma

Posted on June 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s a brief excerpt to give you the flavour. James Garbarino is a psychologist, a writer, and a professor at Loyola University in Chicago, who has spent years working with men convicted of violent crimes. His (experiential and evidenced) perspective … Continue reading →

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Disorderly Conduct – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on May 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/disorderly-conduct/ Magnificent piece by Charles Eisenstein. Charles transmutes a painful personal experience into a beautiful exposition of the cultural and psychological issues it raises:- ‘the presumption that legally constituted authority should decide what is an acceptable level of safety for oneself … Continue reading →

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Martin Luther King on Urban Riots & Oppression

Posted on April 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.facebook.com/groups/108667668615/permalink/10152840219938616/ This quotation remains profoundly timely and relevant. Although the writer has an issue with the language of sin and guilt, she nonetheless resonates with the Victor Hugo quotation:- ‘If a soul is left in the darkness, sins will be … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky – The Price of Shame

Posted on March 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is wonderful. Thank you to Sarah Birdsall on Facebook for drawing it to our attention. Deeply thought-provoking, intelligent, heartfelt and moving – an inspiring example of someone who has taken their own horrible experience and transmuted it with courage … Continue reading →

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