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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Courage

Posted on November 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on connection, shame & empathy

Posted on May 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have previously posted Brené Brown’s lovely definition of connection, which aligns with our own and is person-centred to its core. It stands repeating:- “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and … Continue reading →

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Lauren Southern on Feminism and Equality

Posted on July 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The point she is making feels like an important one. The writer would say that we have a deep, primary need to belong….Outcomes tend to bleak for those of us unable to meet this need adequately. Few would perhaps argue … Continue reading →

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Disorderly Conduct – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on May 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/disorderly-conduct/ Magnificent piece by Charles Eisenstein. Charles transmutes a painful personal experience into a beautiful exposition of the cultural and psychological issues it raises:- ‘the presumption that legally constituted authority should decide what is an acceptable level of safety for oneself … Continue reading →

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How America’s Culture of Shame is a Killer for Boys – Mark Greene

Posted on April 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-why-americas-culture-of-shame-is-killing-us/ This article by Mark is wonderful, and the writer was crying before the end…Although the title gives a masculine focus, the points made are valid for us all, however we self describe/make sense of gender. This is the second … Continue reading →

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