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Thomas Merton on the serene disciple

Posted on October 11, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

When in the soul of the serene disciple With no more Fathers to imitate Poverty is a success, It is a small thing to say the roof is gone: He has not even a house. Stars, as well as friends, … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Disorderly Conduct – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on May 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/disorderly-conduct/ Magnificent piece by Charles Eisenstein. Charles transmutes a painful personal experience into a beautiful exposition of the cultural and psychological issues it raises:- ‘the presumption that legally constituted authority should decide what is an acceptable level of safety for oneself … Continue reading →

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Debunking the Myths about Boys and Emotions By Vicki Zakrzewski

Posted on December 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/debunking_myths_boys_emotions Click on the link for this useful and important piece by Vicki Zakrzewski. Gratitude to Sarah for posting this on her Facebook page and introducing us to it. We notice a lot of subtle (and less subtle) gender prejudice … Continue reading →

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