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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein on the New Story & Separation

Posted on September 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Even though science as we know it is central to the centuries-long or millennia-long program to master nature, even though its approach to gathering knowledge is the very model of “othering” nature and making the world into an object, scientifically … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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The Law Concerning Mermaids – Kei Miller

Posted on October 7, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is a mesmerizing reading by Kei of his wonderful poem…. The writer had not heard of him before today, then did hear about him, and found this randomly on You Tube. This poem feels oddly pertinent to the ongoing … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label by Margaret Altman

Posted on August 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/08/the-boy-in-the-closet-how-i-lost-my-best-friend-to-a-label/ ‘Diagnoses such as schizophrenia mask all of the strengths, feelings and talents that individuals possess, The labels can make people’s behavior appear aggressive, when in fact they are terrified. On the other hand, people in extreme states respond as all humans do to an approach … Continue reading →

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‘ADHD: A Destructive and Disempowering Label; Not an Illness’ Philip Hickey

Posted on August 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/07/adhd-a-destructive-and-disempowering-label-not-an-illness/ ‘Psychiatry has created and promoted the self-serving fiction that childhood distractibility/impulsivity and various other human problems are illnesses that need to be “treated” with neurotoxic chemicals and other brain-damaging interventions. Suggesting at this very late stage in the proceedings … Continue reading →

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Occupy Your Brain: On Power, Knowledge, & the Re-Occupation of Common Sense – Carol Black

Posted on May 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.filmsforaction.org/news/occupy_your_brain_on_power_knowledge_and_the_reoccupation_of_common_sense/ This is an absolutely brilliant article. ‘……it becomes quite interesting not only to look at what your children are required to learn in school, but at what they are not required to learn. While your kids are very busy … Continue reading →

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Irvin Yalom on spontaneity and uniqueness in therapy

Posted on April 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘At its very core, the flow of therapy should be spontaneous, forever following unanticipated riverbeds; it is grotesquely distorted by being packaged into a formula that enables inexperienced, inadequately trained therapists (or computers) to deliver a uniform course of therapy. … Continue reading →

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