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Brené Brown on Living in the Questions

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2016/04/prime-book-brene-brown-courage-vulnerability-peter-freed/?utm_source=Current+Users&utm_campaign=6c8a4c7de2-April_8_Send_Out_4_8_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_53bf79976c-6c8a4c7de2-35203661&mc_cid=6c8a4c7de2&mc_eid=baf214491e Brené talking about what the maturation process has looked like for her… We agree – learning to live in the questions is also what we see unfolding in therapy. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Stephen Jenkinson – The Making of Humans

Posted on October 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely short film from Ian MacKenzie, featuring Stephen Jenkinson’s work through his and Nathalie Jenkinson’s Orphan Wisdom School, which Stephen describes on his website as ‘a teaching house and learning house for the skills of deep living and making human culture. … Continue reading →

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Shifting the Sun – Diana Der-Hovanessian

Posted on July 7, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Shifting the Sun When your father dies, say the Irish, you lose your umbrella against bad weather. May his sun be your light, say the Armenians. When your father dies, say the Welsh, you sink a foot deeper into the … Continue reading →

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James Garbarino on the connection between adult violence & childhood trauma

Posted on June 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s a brief excerpt to give you the flavour. James Garbarino is a psychologist, a writer, and a professor at Loyola University in Chicago, who has spent years working with men convicted of violent crimes. His (experiential and evidenced) perspective … Continue reading →

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Childhood is not a mental disorder – CCHR International

Posted on April 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Eloquent film from CCHR International, making its – vitally important – point in under two minutes. Here’s a link to CCHR International’s site, co-founded by Thomas Szasz, and fighting for human rights in ‘mental health’. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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Shel Silverstein on validation

Posted on February 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Little Boy and the Old Man ‘Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.” Said the old man, “I do that too.” The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.” “I do that too,” laughed the old man. … Continue reading →

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Maria Popova – Review of The Farmer and the Clown by Marla Frazee

Posted on January 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/2014/12/11/the-farmer-and-the-clown-marla-frazee/ Click on the link to read this unusual review of a lovely and unusual child’s book – which also speaks profoundly to adults, as the best books intended for children do….It’s beautifully realized and illustrated by Marla Frazee. Maria … Continue reading →

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Kafka and the lost doll – berlin-artparasites

Posted on January 3, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Touched by this story…its unfolding nature, spontaneous kindness between generations and strangers, and above all the underlying message:- ‘Every thing that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.’ Gratitude to … Continue reading →

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