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Brené Brown on asking for help

Posted on June 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts on our collective fugue state

Posted on June 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘One can only draw the conclusion that the assumption underlying this is that expressions of physical love are far more dangerous than expressions of physical hatred. And it seems to me that a culture that has that sort of … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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‘All Together Now’ George Monbiot

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.monbiot.com/2017/02/09/all-together-now/ Click on the above link to visit George Monbiot’s own site for this article about how we might begin to restore community. Like George, we believe the antidote to our manifold ills as societies lies in connection, relationship and … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Breaking News: The Cause of Schizophrenia Finally Discovered? Noel Hunter

Posted on February 7, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://psychintegrity.org/breaking-news-the-cause-of-schizophrenia-finally-discovered/ Follow the above link for Noel’s piece. It’s a long, well-written and well researched article, essential reading for anyone in our line of work. The writer too has watched with some dismay, the viral description of the Sekar et al. … Continue reading →

Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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