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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on emotion, suppression & our immune response

Posted on August 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Because of the physiological unity of mind/body, because of the physiological unity of the brain’s emotional centers, the immune system, the hormonal and nervous systems, when you suppress something in one area you are risking suppressing it in another area, … Continue reading →

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‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté

Posted on March 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →

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The 12th day of Christmas – George Monbiot

Posted on December 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2012/dec/10/on-12th-day-christmas-present-junk Click on the link above for George’s article in the Guardian on the real cost of Christmas, and the inheritance we are creating for our children and those yet to come. “…of the materials flowing through the consumer economy, … Continue reading →

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Human

Posted on November 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

For the writer, this says all that is necessary. It illustrates what is (catastrophically) left out of account by the ‘perpetrator’/’victim’ binary mindset favoured in our cultures as they stand…. Thank you to Yaacov Darling Khan for posting this on Facebook, and … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

Posted on October 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on judgement as a reflection of the self

Posted on August 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Whenever we are judgmental of other people, especially if we have strong feelings around those judgements, you can be sure that it’s all about ourselves, that we are projecting our own self dislike onto somebody else. Therefore we don’t have … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on the roots of addiction

Posted on July 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, … Continue reading →

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