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Ursula Le Guin on the unhelpfulness of ideas about ‘deserving’

Posted on May 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“For we each of us deserve everything, every luxury that was ever piled in the tombs of the dead kings, and we each of us deserve nothing, not a mouthful of bread in hunger. Have we not eaten while another … Continue reading →

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I am not your fault – Charlotte Eriksson

Posted on December 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“So I am not a broken heart. I am not the weight I lost or miles or ran and I am not the way I slept on my doorstep under the bare sky in smell of tears and whiskey because … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on criticism of self/other

Posted on November 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, “‘What will they think of me?’ must be put aside for bliss.” … Continue reading →

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Professor Michael Dougan on the EU Referendum Debate

Posted on June 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This may seem like an unusual post for a counselling service. However, this is a huge decision that will impact all our lives for many years to come, and the lives of those yet to come. Like Michael, we have serious … Continue reading →

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Martin Luther King on Urban Riots & Oppression

Posted on April 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.facebook.com/groups/108667668615/permalink/10152840219938616/ This quotation remains profoundly timely and relevant. Although the writer has an issue with the language of sin and guilt, she nonetheless resonates with the Victor Hugo quotation:- ‘If a soul is left in the darkness, sins will be … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Cultivating Love

Posted on April 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something … Continue reading →

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