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Ten Meter Tower by Maximilien Van Aertryck & Axel Danielson

Posted on May 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://digg.com/video/ten-meter-tower-psychology-experiment Click on the above link to visit http://www.digg.com for this mesmerising and beautiful film from the New York Times – a little over 16 minutes – of people approaching the edge of a 10 metre diving board. There is … Continue reading →

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The Invisible World – John O’Donohue

Posted on March 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue’s work is of importance to the writer, hence his frequent appearance on this blog. This brief passage captures the tone and quality of his writing and way of being, which may help to explain that…. Here’s the text, … Continue reading →

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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

Posted on September 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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Self Portrait – David Whyte

Posted on October 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just beautiful. Thank you to our John Clapham for bringing this to the writer’s attention. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Disorderly Conduct – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on May 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/disorderly-conduct/ Magnificent piece by Charles Eisenstein. Charles transmutes a painful personal experience into a beautiful exposition of the cultural and psychological issues it raises:- ‘the presumption that legally constituted authority should decide what is an acceptable level of safety for oneself … Continue reading →

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