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Nayyirah Waheed on loving ourselves

Posted on May 13, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.” Nayyirah Waheed Yes, yes, yes. The core of therapy is about coming home … Continue reading →

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Jordan Peterson on Finding a Voice

Posted on June 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has a sense that she and Jordan might see some fundamental things differently….and she is pretty much word for word with him on this, although (at least sometimes) she might say it with softer energies these days…. … Continue reading →

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Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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There is nothing wrong with you

Posted on October 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading →

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Everything is a Mirror (until it’s Not) – Toko-pa

Posted on March 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2015/03/23/mirror/ Powerful post on how valuable and important it is that we can inhabit our ‘no’, alongside our capacities for self reflection and loving kindness. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Pema Chödrön on Looking at ourselves honestly and gently

Posted on February 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.” Pema Chödrön: When Things Fall Apart: … Continue reading →

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Two letters to Tim Bond on BACP’s proposed changes to the ethical framework – Els van Ooijen

Posted on January 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.nepenthe.org.uk/ethics/ The second in our series of posts on BACP’s proposed changes to its Ethical Framework. We share the concern of many therapists about the nature and direction of these changes (and BACP’s political ambitions). We do not think this … Continue reading →

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