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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

Posted on December 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →

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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Does Not Exist – Jay Watts

Posted on March 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/03/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-not-exist/ Interesting, politically savvy post by Jay Watts on the Mad in America site. Just as relevant here…. ‘By conflating a number of vastly divergent approaches with strikingly different ideas of what it means to be human and to suffer, … Continue reading →

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Gordon Neufeld: What makes a child easy to parent?

Posted on April 25, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just been having a conversation with someone about conscious parenting, and she mentioned this man. He’s a Canadian developmental psychologist. She described him as profoundly person-centred – emphasis on relationship: the quality and nature of the relational engagement between parent … Continue reading →

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