Category Archives: Hand in Hand Parenting

Helping my daughter become whom she is meant to be

Posted on March 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2012/06/helping-my-daughter-become-who-she-is-meant-to-be/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.handinhandparenting.org for this gorgeous and profound account of a mother supporting her 3 year old daughter through manifestations of distress, and thereby in dropping down into re-experiencing/processing and releasing birth trauma – with … Continue reading →

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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An Open Letter of Hope to Parents – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on December 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2015/12/an-open-letter-of-hope-to-parents-around-the-world/ Message of hope for families feeling the pain and fear of some of what is happening in the world. This lovely site is full of helpful resources for parents and adults who want to find new, more helpful ways to relate … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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Ending Power Struggles with Children – Hand in Hand Parenting – Patty Wipfler

Posted on August 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/ending-power-struggles-with-children/ At the heart of person centred is the idea that we each have inherent value, and that there is a fundamental equality between us. Whatever differences there may be in our life experience, culture, age, gender, race, ability, education, … Continue reading →

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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Aggression and the Vigorous Snuggle: Rachel Schofield, Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 30, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/handling-a-childs-aggression-setting-limits-with-vigorous-snuggle/ Click on the link for this ‘conscious parenting’ site, and an excellent article by Rachel Schofield on the meanings of aggression in children, and how to meet this as a parent in a way that will support you and … Continue reading →

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