-
Archives
- October 2019
- March 2019
- February 2019
- January 2019
- December 2018
- November 2018
- October 2018
- September 2018
- August 2018
- July 2018
- June 2018
- May 2018
- April 2018
- March 2018
- February 2018
- January 2018
- December 2017
- November 2017
- October 2017
- September 2017
- August 2017
- July 2017
- June 2017
- May 2017
- April 2017
- March 2017
- February 2017
- January 2017
- December 2016
- November 2016
- October 2016
- September 2016
- August 2016
- July 2016
- June 2016
- May 2016
- April 2016
- March 2016
- February 2016
- January 2016
- December 2015
- November 2015
- October 2015
- September 2015
- August 2015
- July 2015
- June 2015
- May 2015
- April 2015
- March 2015
- February 2015
- January 2015
- December 2014
- November 2014
- October 2014
- September 2014
- August 2014
- July 2014
- June 2014
- May 2014
- April 2014
- March 2014
- February 2014
- January 2014
- December 2013
- November 2013
- October 2013
-
Meta
Tag Archives: judgemental parenting
‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté
https://drgabormate.com/trump-clinton-trauma/ Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma normalized in our … Continue reading →
Posted in abuse, bullying, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, cultural questions, diagnoses of ADHD, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, Gabor Mate, generational trauma, growing up, identity, parenting, political, power and powerlessness, sadness & pain, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, trauma
|
Tagged abusive parenting, adapted child, addictive behaviour, ADHD, adult personality, affordable counselling exeter, Art of the Deal, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, authenticity, authoritarian, authoritarian traits, autocratic traits, bullying, child personality, childhood trauma, cold heartedness, compensating patterns, competitive, conditions of worth, conviction of weakness, coping mechanisms, core fear, core pain, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural emotional underdevelopment, denial of trauma, denying reality, developing impulse control, dismissive parent, distorted emotional development, distorted reality, distorting experience, distorting reality, dogmatism, Donald Trump, early trauma, emotional abuse, emotional coldness, emotional development, emotionally cold parent, empathy, eruptions of rage, escaping from pain, false persona, feeling emotion, forming a persona, Gabor Mate, grandiose behaviour, grandiosity, harsh environment, helpless child, inability to concentrate, inability to pay attention, inauthenticity, indicators of trauma, infantile self regard, insulation against reality, John Ibbitson, judgemental parenting, Kevin Dutton, labeling, labelling, lack of nurture, lack of nurturing care, lack of principles, learned behaviour, low cost counselling exeter, low self esteem, lying as personality trait, manipulation, markers of trauma, mental states, misogyny, mode of survival, mother wound, motor mouth, narcissistic obsession, narcissistic personality disorder, negative self worth, negative sense of self worth, no early memory, no memories of childhood, not paying attention, NPD, obsessive behaviour, opaque persona, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, poor concentration, poor impulse control, poor recall of childhood, psychiatric labelling, psychiatric labels, public self destruction, reality denial, regulating emotions, repressing awareness, repressing experience, repressing memory, repressing pain, revenge on mother, seductiveness, self centered impulsivity, self concept, self destructing, self image, self obsession, self promotion, self protection, self-structure, short attention span, Stephen Harper, suppressing awareness, suppressing experience, suppressing memory, suppressing pain, survival mechanisms, survival modes, Tony Schwartz, traits of psychopathy, trauma defences, trauma indicators, trauma manifestations, trauma markers, tuning out, tuning out as a way of coping with emotional hurt, tuning out as a way of coping with stress, unconscious beliefs, value of competition, verbal abuse, verbal patterns, verbally abusive parent, well nurtured children, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
|
Leave a comment
When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →
Posted in acceptance, accountability, anger, blaming, child development, communication, compassion, conditions of worth, conflict, consent, core conditions, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, encounter, equality, ethics, external locus, family systems, fear, generational trauma, growing up, Hand in Hand Parenting, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, love, parenting, power and powerlessness, relationship, self, self concept, self esteem, shame, shaming, teaching, trust, vulnerability
|
Tagged affordable counselling exeter, anger, blame, boundaries, boundaries in parenting, closeness, coercive parenting, coercive relationship, cold shoulder, competition, competitiveness, conditions of worth, conscious parenting, consequences, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dealing with tantrums, dependence, disapproval, discipline in parenting, disconnection, effect of competition on children, effect of competition on self esteem, emotional safety, emotional truths, empathy, excluding, exclusion, experimentation in parenting, external locus, fear, handling tantrums, hope, humiliating, humiliation, intimacy, judgemental parenting, learning in parenting, love, low cost counselling exeter, lying in children, meeting needs indirectly, motivation, my child lies, need for approval, need for attention, need for love, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, Patty Wipfler, perceived threat, person centered parenting, person centred counselling exeter, person centred parenting, person-centered, person-centred, positive attention, power imbalance, punishing, punishment, punishment as control, relational withdrawal, responsibility, safety, saying no, security, self concept, self esteem in children, shame, shaming, social lies, standards of truth, stay listening, staylistening, tantrums, threat, toxic culture, toxic shame, trust, truth telling, understanding, undivided attention, when children lie, withdrawal, www.handinhandparenting.org, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
|
Leave a comment
Palace Gate Counselling Service Blog 