Tag Archives: destructive behaviour

Too right it’s Black Friday: our relentless consumption is trashing the planet George Monbiot

Posted on November 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/nov/22/black-friday-consumption-killing-planet-growth? Click on the above link to visit the Guardian for this article by George Monbiot, to mark last week’s ‘Black Friday’. ‘When you hear that something makes economic sense, this means it makes the opposite of common sense. Those … Continue reading →

Posted in accountability, awakening, boundaries, compulsive behaviour, cultural questions, dependence, Disconnection, ecological, ecological issues, ethics, George Monbiot, growth, human condition, mindfulness, natural world, paradigm shift, perception, political, reality, resilience, risk, shadow, violence, vulnerability | Tagged #extremecivilisation, absolute decoupling, addiction, addictive behaviour, advertising and cultural norms, affordable counselling exeter, associating consumption with happiness, authoritarianism, auto destruct, autonomy and choice, Black Friday, Brave New World, carbon dioxide production, climate breakdown, climate change, collapse of habitats, collective insanity, collective madness, conscious consumers, consumer boom, consumer economy, consumer society, consumerism, consumption and happiness, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural self harming, cultural shadow, decoupling, destructive behaviour, disconnection, disposable culture, ecological space, economic inequality, economic sense and common sense, Environment and Behaviour, environmental awareness, essential resources, ethical responsibility, fallacy of growth economy, festival of junk, George Monbiot, global warming, green consumerism, green consumers, growth economy, growth is unnecessary, growth of inequality, hedonism, industrialisation, industrialised nations, industrialization, insane culture, insectageddon, landfill, living world, low cost counselling exeter, marketing psychology, marketing tactics, mass extinction, mass media and cultural norms, material decoupling, neoliberalism, non growth based model, normalised consumption, normalising, normalizing, numbing, oligarchy, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, Pancakebot, paradigm shift, pathological consumption, perceived obsolescence, perpetual growth, person centred counselling exeter, planetary survival, planned obsolescence, pointless consumption, pointlessness, political imperative, poverty relief, relative decoupling, richest 1%, richest one percent, rising consumption, sea of plastic, self destruct, self harming, selling dreams, selling meaning, sick culture, Simple Lifers, soil loss, species collapse, stimulating spending, Story of Stuff, sufficiency model, sustainability, sustainable growth, trashing the planet, unsustainability, use of resources, well-being, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

Posted in communication, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Disconnection, diversity, emotions, empathy, empowerment, ethics, feminine, Gender & culture, growing up, healing, identity, kindness & compassion, loneliness, love, masculine, non-conforming, objectification, paradigm shift, parenting, perception, political, power and powerlessness, relationship, self, self concept, self esteem, sexual being, sexual orientation, sexual violence, shadow, shame, shaming, vulnerability | Tagged activism, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, antisocial behaviour, approval, authority, autonomy, belittling, belonging, binary, blame, body image, bullying, Button Poetry, challenge, child development, claiming personal power, coercive conformity, coercive culture, community, compassion, competition, conditions of worth for boys, conditions of worth for men, conforming, conformity, confrontation, connectedness, conscious living, consciousness, contempt, controlling behaviour, controlling culture, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, cultural difference, cultural distortion, cultural diversity, culture of coercion, culture of control, culture of shame, cycles of shame, defensive, demonising maleness, demonising masculinity, demonizing maleness, demonizing masculinity, desensitization, destructive behaviour, developmental process, developmental trauma, disapproval, disconnection, discrimination, discrimination against men, displaced expression, distorted developmental process, distortions of masculine power, diversity, division, domination, educating boys, education, emotional awareness, emotional connection, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence in men, emotions, empathy, empathy in boys, empathy in men, empowerment, essence of the masculine, exclusion, external authority, external locus, fear, gender, gender and culture, gender and emotion, gender bias, gender discrimination, gender prejudice, Guante, humiliation, individuated man, individuation, inner truth, inner voice, internal dialogue, internalised values, internalized values, introjections, judgement, kindness, Kyle Tran Myhre, loneliness, loss, low cost counselling exeter, man up, masculine, masculine energies, masculine intuition, masculine norms, masculine nurture, masculinity, men and emotion, misuse of power, non-conforming, nurture in men, objectification, oppression, oppressor, ostracism, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, parenting, pathologising maleness, pathologising masculinity, pathologizing maleness, pathologizing masculinity, patriarchal behaviour, patriarchal culture, patriarchy, permission, person centred counselling exeter, personal discovery, personal journey, personal power, personal work, personhood, poetry as activism, political, projection, projective identification, projective reality, public shaming, punishment, punishment for not conforming, reclaiming the masculine, relationship, repression, ridicule, sacred feminine, sacred masculine, self concept, self distortion, self sufficiency, self suppression, self-structure, sensitivity, sensitivity as strength, separation, sexual diversity, sexual shaming, sexualisation of the masculine, sexualization of the masculine, shadow, shame, shaming, shaming as bloodsport, shaming men, shaming of maleness, social isolation, social pressure, stigma, stigmatising, stigmatizing, stoicism, subjective experience, suppression, unconscious behaviour, vulnerability, vulnerability as strength, wounded feminine, wounded masculine, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

The 12th day of Christmas – George Monbiot

Posted on December 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2012/dec/10/on-12th-day-christmas-present-junk Click on the link above for George’s article in the Guardian on the real cost of Christmas, and the inheritance we are creating for our children and those yet to come. “…of the materials flowing through the consumer economy, … Continue reading →

Posted in 'evil', abuse, accountability, advertising, awakening, communication, compulsive behaviour, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Disconnection, ecological, ecological issues, ethics, Gabor Mate, George Monbiot, loss, Maya Angelou, natural world, objectification, paradigm shift, political, shadow, sustainability, violence | Tagged Adam Welz, addiction, addictive behaviour, advertising and cultural norms, affordable counselling exeter, Annie Leonard, associating consumption with happiness, authoritarianism, carbon dioxide production, climate change, collective insanity, collective madness, consumer boom, consumer economy, consumer society, consumerism, consumption and happiness, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural self harming, cultural shadow, destructive behaviour, disconnection, discovered that, disposable culture, economic inequality, ethical responsibility, fallacy of growth economy, fatuity, festival of junk, Gabor Mate, George Monbiot, global warming, growth economy, growth of inequality, hedonism, industrialisation, industrialised nations, industrialization, insane culture, landfill, living world, low cost counselling exeter, mass media and cultural norms, Maya Angelou, Moral Maze, normalising, normalizing, numbing, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, pathological consumption, perceived obsolescence, person centred counselling exeter, planned obsolescence, pointless consumption, pointlessness, rhino horn, scratch off world map, self harming, selling dreams, selling meaning, sick culture, stimulating spending, Story of Stuff, sustainability, Terry the Swearing Turtle, unsustainability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Brian Thorne on the awesome task of the person-centred therapist

Posted on October 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The person-centred therapist is charged with the awesome task of becoming fully human and the core conditions are the applied practice of that task. It is as if the work of the professional therapist in the person-centred tradition constitutes a … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, actualizing tendency, Brian Thorne, communication, congruence, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, grief, growth, healing, human condition, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, loss, love, meaning, non-directive counselling, organismic experiencing, perception, person centred, person centred theory, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, resilience, self concept, spirituality, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, trust, unconditional positive regard, values & principles, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged acceptance, acceptance in therapy, actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, authenticity, awareness, becoming a person, becoming fully human, Brian Thorne, congruence, connectedness, connection, consciousness, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor awareness, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, denigrating behaviour, destructive behaviour, empathy, empowerment, encounter, equality, ethics, existential meaning, expanding awareness, faith, genuine expression of self, glory of being, Hope Beyond Despair, human condition, immanence, individuation, interconnection, interdependence, internal locus, love, low cost counselling exeter, Mary Kilborn, meaning and healing, meaning in therapy, Mystical Power of Person-Centred Therapy, organismic, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, perception, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, personal growth, presence, professional identity, realness, relational depth, relationship, resourcefulness, sacredness of life, self acceptance, self awareness, self concept, self discipline, self exploration, self ownership, self-structure, shared humanity, shared inheritance, spirituality, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, therapist awareness, trust, unconditional acceptance, unconditional love, unconditional positive regard, UPR, use of self, way of being, working at relational depth, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Jason Hine on the true essence of the masculine

Posted on October 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely piece from Jason Hine about masculinity in our existing cultures, and in potentia. Try clicking on the title, but the link here has been problematic so, in case you cannot see it, here is a cut-and-paste! ‘I feel it … Continue reading →

Posted in 'evil', abuse, acceptance, accountability, actualizing tendency, awakening, blaming, compassion, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, conflict, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, diversity, ecological, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, equality, ethics, external locus, fear, Gender & culture, growth, healing, human condition, identity, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Jason Hine, kindness & compassion, love, masculine, meaning, mindfulness, natural world, non-conforming, organismic experiencing, paradigm shift, perception, physical being, political, power, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, scapegoating, self concept, shadow, shame, shaming, therapeutic growth, transformation, trauma, trust, vulnerability | Tagged abuse, activism, actualising, actualizing, affordable counselling exeter, alienation, altruism, belittling, belonging, body sense, bringing your gifts, calling, challenge, claiming personal power, coercive culture, community, compassion, competition, confrontation, connectedness, connection with natural world, connection with nature, conscious living, consciousness, controlling behaviour, controlling culture, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, courage, creating abuse infantile frustration, creativity, culture of coercion, culture of control, defender of life, demonising maleness, demonising masculinity, demonizing maleness, demonizing masculinity, desensitization, destructive behaviour, developmental process, developmental trauma, disconnected thought patterns, disconnection, distorted developmental process, distortions of masculine power, division, domination, dreaming intelligence, embodied truth, embodiment, emerging masculinity, empowerment, essence of the masculine, existential threat, external authority, external locus, fear, feeling sense, gardeners of the earth, gender discrimination, global consciousness, growth process, healing process, honourable warrior, honouring, honouring the masculine, immanence, immanent intelligence, individuated man, individuation, inner truth, inner voice, inspiring life, intentionality, interconnection, interdependence, internal locus, intuition in men, intuitive sense, Jason Hine, life as sacred, love, low cost counselling exeter, man as protector, masculine, masculine energies, masculine intuition, masculine nurture, neglect, neo liberal, neoliberal, nurture, nurturing, oppression, oppressor, organismic, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, pathologising maleness, pathologising masculinity, pathologizing maleness, pathologizing masculinity, patriarchal behaviour, patriarchy, person centred counselling exeter, personal discovery, personal journey, personal power, personal work, process of healing, process work, projection, protecting life, sacred masculine, sacred purpose, self concept, self-structure, sensitivity, sensitivity as strength, shadow, shame, shaming, shaming men, shaming of maleness, spiritual warrior, spiritual work, standing up for values, stewardship, subjective experience, therapeutic process, trauma, traumatic experience, tribe, unconscious behaviour, vocation, vulnerability, vulnerability as strength, warrior, web of life, wounded feminine, wounded masculine, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Lessons from the Mental Hospital: Glennon Doyle Melton at TED

Posted on May 22, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful account from Glennon of her personal journey – through conditions of worth and pretence into self-acceptance; through using alcohol, drugs and eating to disconnect from difficult experience/emotion, into organismic experiencing and connection with her feeling self/others. Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

Posted in actualizing tendency, clients' perspective, conditions of worth, Disconnection, Eating, interconnection & belonging, sadness & pain, self concept, shame, TED, therapeutic growth | Tagged 'eating disorder', abusive eating, actualising, actualizing, addiction, alcohol abuse, anger, anxiety, binging, Brené Brown, bulimia, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, destructive behaviour, disconnection, fear, Glennon Doyle Melton, organismic experience, Palace Gate Counselling Service, person-centred, pretending, purging, self concept, self harm, separation, TED, truth | Leave a comment