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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the true essence of the masculine

Posted on October 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely piece from Jason Hine about masculinity in our existing cultures, and in potentia. Try clicking on the title, but the link here has been problematic so, in case you cannot see it, here is a cut-and-paste! ‘I feel it … Continue reading →

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Bonnie Bright – Trauma and Homecoming: Finding a Sense of Place in the Space of Trauma

Posted on December 19, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depthinsights.com/Depth-Insights-scholarly-ezine/trauma-and-homecoming-finding-a-sense-of-place-in-the-space-of-trauma-by-bonnie-bright/ Click on the link to visit this fascinating and profound article by Bonnie. It’s a long read, well worth the investment of time and energy. She begins with the choice of the U’wa people in Colombia, faced with the … Continue reading →

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