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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Posted on August 21, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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Debunking the Myths about Boys and Emotions By Vicki Zakrzewski

Posted on December 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/debunking_myths_boys_emotions Click on the link for this useful and important piece by Vicki Zakrzewski. Gratitude to Sarah for posting this on her Facebook page and introducing us to it. We notice a lot of subtle (and less subtle) gender prejudice … Continue reading →

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